is Two Weeks Too Soon To Introduce New Partner to 4yr old?

[whooosh]

My xDP ended our 15yr relationship with a 10 second phonecall two weeks ago.
I was convinced there was someone else and yesterday she confessed she is in love with this woman (who I know and was sat in my kitchen 2 weeks ago!).

We met yesterday,she has full PR for DD so legally. I cannot stop her from seeing DD (nor would I DD loves her and she is a great parent)

However,she dropped the bombshell she is moving in with this woman ,a 2hr drive away from our home.I am very keen for DD to retain her relationship with xDP and had (in the very brief time I have had to think about this)envisaged an every other weekend plus one night in the week scenario for DD.

xDP compounded the bombshell by stating that DD's time with her would be spent with the OW and her teenage daughter.She was quite emphatic about this.It also means that DD won't be able to see xDP in the week.

I think it is WAY too soon for DD to adapt to a new relationship.She is already suffering from the split and I think she needs time just with xDP.Are there ANY guidelines on how long it should be or is there any way I can stop it?

Glad to hear that whooosh you sound very strong

It's amazing where you find strength sometimes.I have some wonderful friends and also a wonderful MN mate who has been fabulous.

Her share of care was probably 70/30 in my favour.Due to her work commitments (or lack of) she was around DD an awful lot which is why DD is so lost now.

So the ex was with DD 70% of the time?

Good luck whooosh. THough everything undoubtedly feels awful at the moment you may well be able to build a constructive co-parent relationship with your OP that benefits your DD, and move on happily with your own life as well.

What SGB said...
Glad you are feeling stronger whooosh

No Elenor-in terms of "care"-school runs,breakfast etc it was always me but she spent a good couple of hours each afternoon and more on half school days.She also used to have her Sat and Sun mornings so I could have a lie-in.

Oh ok I understand. Your poor DD, she has been let down so badly by your ex.
As a new mum, DP and I have a 19mo DD I cannot quite get my head around parents who put themselves first.
Take care and keep strong