Is this acceptable?

[mylittlepuppy]

When dh and i were havong a row recently, it got quite heated and he started to "mock" what i was saying. Basically repeating my words and trying to use the same tone of voice. I found it very intimidating and distressing. My sister was really shocked and said it shows a complete lack of respect ofr me. I got realy upset and cried and he just went out,leaving me crying

Sounds like he ran out of things to say and reverted to mocking you.. Its not a nice thing to do but I suppose you were having a row...What were you rowing about?

Well, if you were really upset and intimidated you have answered your own question really - its not acceptable to you.

Thanks unavailable, just wondered if i was being unreasonable to be so upset by it

No I don't think it is acceptable. Did he appologise? Did he realise how distressed/ intimidated you were by his behaviour?

He clearly isn't intelligent enough to think of his own things to say. My dh always turns whatever I say in an argument around to then accuse me of what I'm accusing him of at the time. Drives me MAD!!!!! I tell him to think of his own arguments

No he didn't apolgise and yes, he did realise how upset i was. I'm ashamed to say that when mocked me i caled him a "piece of scum" and left the room

we were trying to talk about whether we should go for a joint counselling session as it's likely we'll split up - it turned into a row as he said no point because he thinks i want to leave anyway

so you had a row and you both said things you shouldn't have.
in fairness i think you are both in the wrong, and fail to see why only he should apologise.

Helsbels

@ telling hubby to think of his own arguments

I must use that one think i'll start a row just so i can test it out lol

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OP

No..YANBU..He's a man..You're a woman

Therefore, you are ALWAYS right

any other opinions?

Do you want to leave?

Probably as dh and i are poles apart emotionally and that leads to many problems.

Maybe a trial seperation might be wise then?

Do you still like him? Laugh with him? Do you have things in common?

Shows a complete lack of respect and emotional immaturity - FFS that is what a child would do.

Say to him that if he is not adult enough to go to counselling and learn how to talk through your problems you can't be arsed with the relationship either.

Thanks Madame - that's pretty much what my sister said and i often trust her opinion. He doesnt seem to have much respect for people. egs are not sending his mum a mothersd ay card, getting me a card last year form our 1yo with "mum" on it, shouting and swearing at me when pg, even soon after my dad dies and i had high blood pressure. At the end of his paternity leave ( admittedly i had been an emotional and physical wrecka nd pretty grumpy and argumentative during it) he told me "I'd pissed the ;ast 2 weeks up the wall" becuae of my behaviour !. he can be very nice, kind and thoughtful, We just can't deal with stress and emotion together

Yes id o like him, but not attracted to him. never more than a quick kiss. Feel to hurt by him and distant from him ot do more. We have ds in common and no , there's not that much laughing

My children copy each other like that, but I dont think its remotely acceptable from an adult.
He doesnt seem like he respects you much, and IMO he should be taking a discussion about the potential for saving his relationship more seriously.

tbh it sounds like neither of you like each other very much.
i'd imagine that their is faukt on both sides, but if he is unwilling to seek counselling or to work on the relationship perhaps a trial seperation would be the best option for all involved.

My thoughts too tigger . Tbh, i'm not sure f he's that bothered if i go or stay. He knows there could be someone else (for me ) too but he doesn't seem terribley bothered. He 's very lacking in any emotion other than anger (which is stores up, he hates confrontation). My counsellor said it likely he hardly even feels much jeaslousy because of how he is

yes, mayor definately been fault on both sides, just seems we bring out the wosr in eachother sometimes

Anyone else got any thoughts? i starting to think that because of how things have been for so long, i feel that it's "normal". Really wondering if i should leave?

Have you by any chance, already had a trial separation where you ended up living with the 'possible' other man?

No, not lived with possible other man. May consider it in the future if things don't work out

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