What's going on? help me make sense of my feelings

[Frogart]

I have been seeing someone for the past few weeks. We get on great but he's not my type at all and after the first meeting I said I wouldn't see him again. But I caved because his personality is just so nice, I enjoyed spending time with him and so we went out a second time. Still no feelings there other than enjoying his company.

But then I caught myself thinking about him quite a bit. More than I should considering I didn't think it was going anywhere. We went out a few more times and now I seem to think about him all the time. It's an odd feeling. When I think about him, I get a funny feeling, I know it sounds corny but its quite of like faint butterflys in my stomach.

And more embarrassingly, I've caught myseld thinking about him in a rather sexual way too although we've never even kissed.

Sad as it sounds, I've never been in love but I've never had these kinds of feelings for anyone either and I just don't understand what's going on. He's NOT my type, he's quite geeky, overly nice, the proper good guy type...I go for "bad boys", rough around the edges, manly types.

So why am I constantly thinking about this man??

sounds like lurve

and how have those 'bad boys' worked out for you? Maybe you're ready to try something new.

Frogart a friend of mine was in a similar situ.
really liked him as a person but didn't fancy him,but then it grew a bit til a few months later they really got it on
her exbf was a bad boy big time

Maybe you're ready to settle down, and realise that Mr Geek might make a better daddy than Mr Bad Boy?

I felt a bit like that about I guy I met when I was coming up 21. I'm now 34 - we've been together 13 years, married for 6 and have gorgeous 4 year old DD

Perhaps like Sarah76 says it's time for a change.

Frogart - well it sounds like love to me.

Opposites attract and he has got under your skin and you are having a hard time admitting you like it - enjoy the fight and the giving in as well !

My wife felt exactly like that about me. Not her type at all - she didn't like nice blokes who wore suits and prefered bad boy 'punk rockers'.

But wouldn't I know if it was love? I always imagined it to be really obvious, like there was no doubt at all ... maybe you're right betadad and I'm just denying it for the sake of him not being my usual type.

I thought he would text last night and he didn't. I told myself I didn't mind ... but I kept checking my phone so I must have done deep down

But he's taking me out for lunch tomorow

Still not sure what it is ... wouldn't I KNOW if it was love?

It may not be luuuurrrvvve just yet, but it may be beginning to grow. It's not always a lightening flash - BOOM - you're in love!

Anyway, relax, see where it goes - you don't have to define a relationship right away.

Sometimes what you think is your type, actually isn't at all. My DH wasn't my type for years then we got together and he puts all those blokes who I thought were my type well in the shade. Time changes things and our thoughts and expectations change as we get older too. This guy of yours sounds really nice and I hope it is the start of something special for you

Give us an update on the lunch!!

Same here - NM isnt my "type" of course my usual type is nasty bad boys who treat me like shit.....I get those same fluttery feelings and thing about him a lot - he is the archetypal nice guy and you know what I love him for it - go for it
And of course you know what the sex was bloody marvellous

OldLady - I agree sometimes it grows that is how my wife was about me but I was like BOOM from the second I met her. Although, it still took me two years to pluck up the courage to kiss her - which was probably a bit of a long time and she eventually forced the pace.

Frogart - the waiting for texts thing and being disppointed that it didn't happen then looking forward to lunch and counting down the hours. Oh yes, I would say that is terminal amore.

< cue sounds of distant wedding bells and sounds of tiny pattering feet >