if dh's aunt made an offensive comment, would you feel obliged to see her again at easter

[bigboydiditandranaway]

After the last time (half term) dh's aunt visited and commented on baby's appearance saying to dh, you are the father aren't you ...(she appologised after saying she was only joking

I told dh that i thought it would be best to not see her the next time she visited his parents(easter probably)

we are due to see his parents weekend before easter. so do you think we should see them then and stick to our guns and skip seeing his aunty at easter or, see them all at easter and skip the weekend before visit with just the inl's.

Dh did say to his mum we were offended by his aunt's comment, so wouldn't come as a shock not to see her but, inl's are very controlling and overbearing people so probably would be difficult if we didn't make plans to see his aunt.

you are either overreacting wildly
or a big fat troll

She made a silly comment and apologised for it - what are you trying to do, cut her out of your life over it? Forget about it and move on

I've heard exactly that comment used as a 'joke' so often before. It's not funny, but nor is it offensive.

I think you need to take the initiative and build bridges. She is family and your overreaction may have offended her.

You are overreating, big time.

this has got to be a joke right?

everyone who met me as a child commented on how I was definately my father's daughter but there was nothing about me to show who my mother was. That or where did I get my eye colour from, que jokes about what colour eyes does the postman have.

Its normal banter. You are either kidding or a bit mental!

you may be overreating but actually I meant overreacting.

YABU, it was one of those stupid comments that some people find funny. (postman, did your mum have a bike...) Not worth causing a family feud for, unless there is something else that is bothering you?

LOL at overreating, KingCanute. Freudian slip?

if it was just that one comment about baby's possible paternity made as a feeble joke, then you are totally OTT (precious first born is it?) and need to chill. You will hear a lot worse in their lives! People do say silly things, and she did apologise.

if there is history or more to it than that, then you need to give us the details so we can make a full evaluation of the situation.

Agree with all above. OK you didn't find it funny, but it wasn't deliberately nasty and she did apologise.
I don't think small babies look much like anyone and all look like babies, some more attractive than others but wouldn't expect to be avoided in future because of 1 offhand remark.

Having said that I would never feel "obliged" to visit an aunty, so wouldn't go if I didn't want to, and usually we're busy at Easter and often go away (not relly visiting). The remark is neither here nor there though.

did she make reference to the milkman??

that is so 3 decades ago humour

seriously - you want to cut her out of your lives over this??? Did you have an affair? Are you feeling tetchy? If you are not a troll then I have to say you are going to hear way WAY worse, from people who wont apologise and you need to get over it. Sorry but it is true. It was a silly comment. She said sorry. What is the problem.

I agree with..well - everyone.
No-body is perfect, and I have said some things that I really wish I could take back -
Haven't you? Hasn't everyone?

bigboydiditandranaway seems to have, er, well, run away...

troll? or just feeling the overwhelming pressure of Mumsnet giving her a collective reality slap?

are you out there?

Ds is plainly his father's child and not mine - if he is mine my genes were completely bi passed when he was made!

NO big deal. My xbils asked me if it was possible for two brown eyed parents to have blue eyed children. CLEARLY YES YOU EEJITS.