Anyone else over think things?

[cupcake78]

I am beginning to think that I over think things!

Anyone else do this. Would love to stop it and just live life for today and take deal with things as they happen.

Easier said than done .

Oh god yes!!!! I am constantly analysing, predicting the future, predicting how I will deal with the future, coming up with 39 contingency plans etc. On holiday I will think. ' in 13 days it will all be over, in 12 days it will all be over' and so on - makes me want to scream 'why can't I just enjoy the here and now' .... No help but you are definately not on your own

i used to then realised what a waste of my mental energy it all was
i now just take things as they come and deal with them appropriately
i have found that to be the way ahead for me
and certainly it makes life less stressful

I think it's an easy trap to fall into tbh if you're feeling a bit down.

Although what sort of things are you over-thinking?

Not any more. I used to go over everything like a English undergrad over a Shakespeare sonnet.

I have forced myself to stop. Because it is a waste of time and energy and it rarely helps.

I had to leave my eldest 2 with my dh and my inlaws when I had ds2, on the phone to my very good friend she said well, as long as they are alive and safe and well does it really matter what happens ie if they dye their hair purple and stay up singing all night, since then I have tried to not" think "too much. Although at the moment I think I may be dwelling on a recent event in my life too much. Its a hard one to call, I think my friend was right.

I over think everything but specifically the "what if" crops up all the time. I read between the lines of friends texts and even wonder if mine has been interpreted how I ment it to sound. Its rediculous and starting to drive me mad!! So how did you all stop? Cos its just exausting!

I do it too. I think it comes from being insecure and having a touch of low self esteem. We're all a bit like that and people that aren't like this are usually bulldozers, considered busy bodies or insensitive.
I find tho that men tend not to do it, they don't have this tendency to over analyse things, everything is surface and uncomplicated. I envy my DP. He knows I am like this and giggles when he sees me re-reading texts that I have sent or going over emails that I myself have sent etc etc. I feel pent up if I can't discuss things in full and there's noone happier than me when I chat with my sister who is also a 'deep thinker' as she calls it. It's a positive name for it... Loads of us do it, don't worry. Its over equating everything, but then I consider myself a very fair person . If that means anything... hang on whilst I re-read this before I post it off!