(NAME CHANGED, PLEASE DON'T OUT ME IF YOU RECOGNISE ME)
I've been very casually seeing a bloke for the past couple of weeks. I was never that into him but in the couple of times we met up, he would always 'arrange' something else and I felt guilty and didn't see the harm in just meeting up for a quiet drink/lunch etc.
After the first meet he told me he'd told his daughter (11) all about me and that she was really excited. I said "don't you think its a bit early to be telling the kids?" and he brushed it off saying he'd only told her I was a friend. However she text him 4 times to see how our date was going.
My kids know nothing of him. BUT, they do know his daughter as she used to go to their primary school.
A couple of days ago he said "do you fancy taking the kids up to (big soft play centre)?" He asked me over msn, my DS was on the PC checking his email at the time and got all excited and asked "oh, please can we go! we've not been there for ages!" so I was like but agreed.
I should have said no as I was never comfortable with this. For one thing its far too early to be introducing the kids, for another thing I know its going nowhere so its not fair to involve the kids and finally, I want to start cutting contact.
I sent him a message later on saying perhaps it wasn't a good idea and he started going on about how his daughter was really excited about it and hadn't stopped going on about it. I felt guilty so we went.
THEN it started getting really freaky.
In the car the daughter said to my son "I bet you're glad you're moving so you can get into (good high school)?" DS said "what??? mum are we moving??"
Bloke got all embarrassed and said to his DD "Nothing has been discussed about that yet, you should not have mentioned it". The DD then said "But you said they may be moving in with us!" I glared at bloke, he went all red and started stuttering before saying "I'm sorry, she gets carried away ... " but he MUST have said this, mustn't he??
Then later in the day the DD said "Its cool that you're going to America this year, but it will be even better when we all go in a couple of years, won't it? turns out he'd promised her that we'd all be going on a family holiday in two years time.
I barely know the bloke and now my kids are confused wondering what is going on, his DD is going to be upset when she realises NOTHING is going on and I feel responsible for it all!
I know part of this is my fault but what on earth is he playing at?? and how the hell do I get rid of someone who had it in their head that we were all about to become one big happy family??