Would it be wrong to date when pregnant?

[Thisispants]

I probably wouldn't in reality but I'm 2mths pregnant, newly single (literally yesterday) and was just idly wondering.

Thoughts please?

Laugs, I agree with most of what you say, but I really am just pondering, that's all.

I didn't think that adults went on celibate dates anymore.

Well, for speculation purposes then, I found that men looked through me when I was pregnant. Or sometimes they would look at my face showing some interest, then catch sight of my belly and go all alarmed and embarrassed I think they see the pregnancy as a sign that another man has 'been there' and back right off.

I think I would find it uncomfortable trying to have a conversation with a bloke, knowing that things might get at least romantic (a kiss, etc) and have another mans child in my belly. It would be like the elephant in the room! I don't know. Also my hormones were all over the place when I was PG, so anyone who met me then would have thought I was a raving loony! As if, haha...

I know you are

The thing is, it could just be innocent fun, but you never actually know if it's going to lead to a relationship do you? What if you really fell for someone but felt the timing was wrong? What if you went on a couple of dates, really liked him and then he backed off when he found out you are pregnant?

It sounds like you need to get all your girl friends together, tell them you are pregnant for a start! and then have some nice girlie nights with them. Don't be embarrassed about your pregnancy. I am sure your friends will be supportive and kind and fill any gap a man has left, if you want them to be. Your nights you have planned with your mum sound lovely.

That sounds more like the reality cheerfulvicky! I don't look pregnant yet though. I've probably got another month or so where I don't feel like that. It's so unfair. My ex will get to go out, live the single life, get a good night's sleep while I will be pregnant, unattractive to the opposite sex for the next 7mths, and looking after our DS and consequently getting very broken sleep most nights. Sigh. Actually though, to contradict myself, I'm the lucky one really, I get my son and the new baby, when he/she arrives. What has he got in comparison?

Think Seal & Heidi Klum

You're right Laugs. I know that really. Mumsnet has really made me feel better you know.

Think Miranda on Sex and the City - she did have sex with another man whilst pregnant but did have reservations about it - and ultimately ended up with the father of the baby when he was about one.

Thisispants, yes I have. But the guy in question knew me before I was pregnant. I had a very unhealthy, addictive relationship with my baby's father in more ways than one. I like spending time with someone 'normal' who doesn't enjoy hurting me physically...

But anyway, if you want to have sex that is entirely up to you and others should not judge you for it (not sure why anyone would find it repulsive tbh ). The fact you are pregnant does not mean you should be seen as unattractive!

Pregnant ladies are attractive.

I would say that there is a very big difference between thinking about sex and having sex.

I am surprised that people feel so strongly about this. Just go with the flow. You might not meet anyone, you might have some fun dates, you might fall in love. Who knows? As long as it feels right for you and you're happy and well, frankly, who cares?

I say good luck to you. Just make sure you look after yourself as much as you can, and hopefully you have a good support netowrk to help you out along the way