Am very much in love with DP of a year but am finding the fact that we live 4 hours apart more and more painful. I don't doubt his love for me and he's told me he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. We see eachother every fortnight but hopefully he'll be moving in with me within the next year or so (would be sooner but we currently have dependent children).
To make up for the lack of physical contact, I feel communication is very important. In an ideal world we'd exchange a daily text and then have a quick phone call (no more than 30 mins) in the evening. He's fine with this but leaves most of the initiating up to me. He'll always respond to texts and seems genuinely happy when I call (often I can't get him off the phone) but I'm beginning to feel resentful that I'm the one who does most of the initiating. He says things like "I was staring at the phone willing you to ring and you did!", which is all well and good but if he wants to talk to me so much, why doesn't he call me first? And I feel that sending a one-line text is not asking much of anyone, even if they are busy, which I know he is.
When we're together he's very attentive so I keep trying to tell myself it's not that important. But it's not working and the issue just won't go away. I've told him quite a few times how much I love it when he contacts me and how important it is because we spend so little time together so it's going to feel like nagging if I do it again. Maybe it's my problem and I need therapy (!) or do I just stop initiating contact and see what happens? But that would seem like game-playing and even if he did contact me eventually (which I don't doubt) we'd inevitably go back to the same pattern. Actually having re-read this, this all seems so silly but I'm often in tears in the evenings because I miss him so much and wish he'd call.