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practical advice sought

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imgoingtodoit · 17/03/2009 09:56

Right. I'm going to (eventually) leave my dh. Counselling has shown me this is the right thing to do and for the first time in ages I actually feel ok, well i feel okish (but thta's an improvement!)
But I haven't a clue where to start. Can you wise mners further down the road bear to share their wisdom? Specifically:

How do I find out about housing? will I get housed (have ds aged 7).

What about work? practically this makes work v difficult/impossibe (I do agency work and in different locations)as I will lose my transport, so won't be able to do same job? Have I made my self voluntarily out of work? Will this affect any benefits I might get? How can I find out about benefits?

This all feels very new to me (but weirdly exciting as well). Have noone local in rl to discuss this with or help. Haven't spoken to h yet. Don't know what to expect on that front. Have ordered "divorce for dummies".

Please share you "out the other side" stories and practical advice too. And wish me luck! Many many thanks.

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imgoingtodoit · 17/03/2009 12:49

Anyone? Please?

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BennyAndJoon · 17/03/2009 12:51

Oh I don't know sorry. Can you contact your local CAB?

Sfendona · 17/03/2009 14:19

i dont know much but perhaps you will get good information if you post in the Lone Parents section?
There are ladies there who have been through the same

All the best luck

Blarbie · 17/03/2009 14:22

Just wondering why it's you that needs the house and have lost the car. No experience of this, but I'd have thought the parent caring for the child needs the house more.
Good luck!

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imgoingtodoit · 17/03/2009 17:08

Thanks everyone. CAB I have to go in person or ophone, not email and I'm working up to it.
Lone parents forum a good idea, thanks.
Blarbie, i don't want to argue about house etc. its too big for just me and ds, and has bad memories. We will be considered "overhoused" I think.

Any more thoughts?

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Sfendona · 17/03/2009 17:19

i think there is a site 'entitled to' or something like this and if you type your details you will get what benefits are entitled for.

You must make sure you find out about the hours. There is a 'magic number' i think is 16 hours. Basically if you work 18 hrs you ll be much worse than if you work 16 hrs!! Something like this. I remember reading this in the Lone Parent section

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