how can i change my lazy pig of an H

[TaxiDriver]

well i think he is.
the dc's have a club every day of the week bar one.
and muggins here drives them to and fro.
tonight i will be driving up the road at 10.00 pm to pick up ds from a club.

dh does one club a week and reminds me of it constantly.

monday i take and pick up.
tuesday my dm takes and mostly dh picks up
wedns i take and pick up, though we have 2 clubs and even last week i did both!
friday apart from one club, i take and pick up,
sat i take and pick up
sund i take and pick up.

obviously with all these clubs, there are other events involved - which i take and pick up as well.

how can i sort him out.

usually he has a drink, so cannot pick up, but if he is having a sober week night, he will go to bed early.

there is more but i have lost will.

how does everyone else cope?

as far as i can see, apart from the single mums, most of these pick ups are done by the dads.

sigh at no response.
off to fetch ds.

How many DCs do you have ?

You may laugh hollowly at this, and feel free to rebut me with my one preschooler,but it seems to me that the problem is not your DH but the number of evening activities your DCs are attending.Seriously you are ferrying them around 7 days a week.

Um, well, personally I think if it's that much hassle then maybe cut down on the clubs.

My DH doesn't do any of the running around either but I only do a max of 2 nights a week.

we have 3 dc's. i did wonder if that would be the reaction.
dh has always said if i want them to do clubs, i should do running around...

don't you mind saggyhairya?

I share with the parents of dc's friends who go to the same after school activities.

but i feel to be asking, since dh is at home drinking sleeping/lazing.

i would be pissed off too, Its good your children are gtting to do the clubs they want to, and its both parents responsibility to take and collect surely. Just like it should be with everything else you do.
Maybe you could compromise and tell the kids they can do 1 club each and share the lifts with your DH. If he wants a drink can't be do all the taking and you do the collecting??

why should you feel(blush) at asking parents of other kids going to same clubs. Surely it will be to everyones advantage if you all take it in turns to take just one car each time. It is also good for the environment to car share.
We do this where I live and it works because we all get a night off each and no one is stressed then.
Why not ring them all up to organise rotas I realise it might get complicated with 3dcs but try it out on a chart and see if you can get it to work. It's worth it for your sanity and wear and tear of car and nerves.

"dh does one club a week and reminds me of it constantly".

Each time he reminds you, try pretending you've assumed it's because he's trying to tell you he'd like to take more on and ask him which ones he wants to do
It doesn't sound as if he'll go along with it but it may at least shut him up.

Is public transport an option at all? I live very rurally and understand that it might not be, but even at that there's a bus that stops less than, ooh, two miles from home, and I made them take that if at all possible. (My children are now grown ups, obviously this depends on the age/maturity of your DCs and the availability of public transport)