Ex Girlfriend getting back in touch... Yay or Nay?

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Would you be pissed off if your DH's ex got in touch to say sorry???

I am the ex girlfriend, now happily married, and i want to apologise to an ex (also happily married) for something i've always felt awful for. It's been on my mind lately and i thought it might put it to rest.

I don't want to tread on anyone's toes though or freak them out.

Is it a weirdy thing to do?

DH did this years ago with his ex. It turned into a complete nightmare. Because then SHE wanted to have a chat about how his behaviour made her feel. Then she wanted another chat about how she was letting it all go...

It went on, off and on, for about 5 months. DH and I had only just got together but I can assure you, I'd be a lot less sympathetic now!

Admittedly, DH's ex is a complete whiner - when we first got together one of my issues was that how could I be with a man who had actually nearly married such a woman!

Oh I feel your pain

DH's ex facebooked him the other day, am very suspicious of her (not DH) as she hap[ily trots around having affairs with amrried men and is known for it. Am doubly suss as she amde contact the day he posted he got a Merc (didnt mention it was a Smart car did he? FGS!)

but there'snowt I can do, she's a sister of a friend and much as I want to FB her to say back off hussy I can't.

Sooooooo..... from the other side i'd say don't go there. Even if the marriage is strong (ours is) wife won't want your appearance and you don't know what else is going on in there lives- they could be in a rough patch or whatever.

Say your sorry's to the mirror and Move On.

Also- I always wanted to say sorry to an ex and met him unexpectedly recently when my sisters son and his baby were being Christened together: hat I didn't recollect was that he was An Arse and still very angry with me 16 years on- equated me dumpng him at 19 when college ended with ex-wide running on with his first child and qquite frankly all I got from the experience was the realisation of a lucky escape!

yes, i thought i might put that at the top MorrisZapp.

i get that it's a bad idea.

crivvens.

One of my husband's exes got in contact with him to apologize about the way their relationship ended (I think, she was vague and he couldn't remember her doing anything!). It was fine by me; I encouraged him to be nice to her and reply as I'd want someone to do the same for me if I felt the need. She was clearly not after him!

I think if apologising would make you feel better then do it. But as people have pointed out, it might go wrong - think it's a judgment call on your part.

I'm surprised at how many people think wanting to do this is weird. It's fair enough to question the motives behind wanting to apologise but to call the wish to do so weird ....... I don't get it.

I agree it's a judgement call blinks and personally I think maybe the time has passed to apologise but good for you for being so considerate.

thanks APG.

i probably won't do it as i agree that it could be perceived wrongly.

i find it odd that people are sooo cynical though.