Year on still not over him please help.

[sadchubs]

Title says it all, its now been over a year since we split and I still think about him every day, get upset if we speak. We were only together 2 years, the only reason we split up was because he was jealous. How can I get over him

bumping for you - hopefully somebody with some experience will come along! Good Luck!

If you feel that strongly is there no way to work it out

Remind yourself frequently that jealous people are unbearable to live with and very often escalate to controlling and isolating you and then to physical violence. So you're much, much better off without him.
Now make a list of everything that you are interested in and care about (that doesn't involve couplehood) and find some things to absorb your energy and get you feeling all passionate and engaged with the world. Doesn't matter whether it's ice hockey, stamp collecting, campaigning against racism or playing the piano, give yourself something good and important to think about and thoughts of this loser will fade.

If you are definately over, then time I guess.
I am almost exactly a year down the line (he left) after a 16yr relationship. It is only in the last few weeks (since he told me he is seeing someone else) that I feel like I am anywhere near starting to get over it - and actually being over it is a long way off.

I keep telling my self time is a great healer but it doesnt help that we talk sometimes on the phone

7 years for me youve got a long time to go yet chin up

It does get better, slowly, but I think that it takes more time than many people admit. I have always thought of relationships as being like trees with deep roots. You can cut the tree off at ground level, but the roots, which are invisible, still run deep. I am always amazed at people who can apparently stop feeling something for someone they cared deeply about, very quickly. Hang on in there - you will remember the good times and miss them, because your feelings were genuine at the time - but do remind yourself why you split up (strangely that seems easier to forget) and focus on the positives in life as SGB suggests.