Is he just after sex or am I being paranoid?

[BatmansWilly]

My online dating quest continues ...

So I've been talking to this bloke for just over a week and he was very keen to meet up straight away. I didn't have a problem with this as I can't be arsed faffing with endless emailing anyway.

Thing is, he started by saying "when should I pop around?" I responded by saying "I will meet you somewhere".

Then msn went all wierd and we got cut off.

Last night he came back on. I said "How are you?" and he said "I'm fine thanks, wish we could meet up though ... ?"

So I said "When are you free? we could meet up sometime this week if you want?"

He replied "Where do you live? I can pop around for a coffee" I said "I'd prefer to meet somewhere neutral actually".

He replied "yes lol, I could be a mad axe man I suppose".

So he told me he would be in the city centre tomorow. I suggested I meet him there. He then said he didn't know the city very well. So by this point I'm getting tired of it and just suggested a pub near where he will be. He agreed.

But then he said "if we click, we could maybe go back to yours for lunch or something lol x"

So what do you reckon? nutter or am I being paranoid?

He's also suggested that I take my kids down to where he lives sometime (lives on a farm apparantly) after only a week of chatting? He has shown me a picture of his daughter (or I suppose some little girl) holding a duck in the house so it kind of fits IYSWIM?

I'm just being extra careful.

as a bloke, to me this sounds completely like he's after sex and thast he is in fact quite a weirdo.7
avoid at all costs.just block him on-line and don't contact him again

Completely sounds like he's after sex.

I'm a fan of going dutch for the first few dates, and not going anywhere ridiculously expensive. There are still idiots around that think you 'owe' them if they pay for a meal.

gah.....run run run BatmansWilly!

Oh it gets worse ...

The pub we're supposed to be meeting in tomorow (not that I am still going) ... well he says he will be parked around the back and will meet me at his car. He says he would feel silly sitting in a pub alone.

I'm half tempted to go just to see what he's up to! with a baseball bat maybe.

NEVER meet them alone the first time! Tell him he's freaking you out and you've changed your mind about meeting him at all. Then block him. If he's not a complete freak, he'll at least think twice before pressuring someone else in this way!

Sounds like a bloody serial killer....meeting you outside so no one in the pub gets a look at him!

If you go (with the bat), can I come along with a tyre-iron?

Sounds like he is possibly married and afraid to be seen out with you?

haha! oh I suppose you have to laugh, otherwise you'd cry.

On a serious note, if he is dangerous I wonder if anyone would be vunerable enough to get sucked in? I'd hate to see something in the news and know I could have stopped it.

Maybe I'm over-reacting now.

You are right to be cautious and a bit sceptical. Aside from the security issue, most men are happy to meet somewhere neutral for the first 3 or so meetings. The fact that he is working so fast makes me a little suspicious, not least that he may be a little socially inept.

He is either:

a) A serial killer

b) Married

c) mental

d) Only after a shag

or most likely, all of the above!
If you met him though a dating site, could you report him to them? He sounds like he's quite dodgy, actually...

I think she said he'd had a 'breakup'...perhaps Fanjo is right....still married and trying to avoid detection. Wouldn't be the first married man pretending to be single.

BatmansWilly, wouldn't overburden yourself by worrying. In all likelihood he's just after a shag/terminally socially inept. If you tell him exactly why you won't meet him, you've done your part.

Now I'm intrigued. Please go meet him and report back here. Take a friend for safety obv.

Take your running shoes and run for the hills.

Its simply not worth taking the risk.

Couldn't you try and meet him but have a friend at a safe distance? Then if he's dodgy you'll out him and be able to report him to the site? You had the sense to think it was odd, someone else might not have.

think batman's now has other options lol

Definitely don't meet this man. Anyone using dating sites who is decent and sensible knows damn well that the rules are: first meeting is in a public place with no expectations - anyone who won't abide by that is either potentially dangerous, completely clueless - or otherwise committed and wants to play away.