So whats the best base/start for a relationship..... a slow burn... or a spend every waking hour with you start and what was yours?

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When hubby and I first met we could only see each other one night a week and then at the weekend and while I counted the days until I saw him, I think it worked out well for us. When he was studying for his exams we saw each other even less but we spoke every day on the phone.

We tried a slow burn combined with every waking hour together approach.

See other thread for details.

[http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/721446-To-not-want-to-kiss-after-1- dates kiss

Basically spent virtually every single waking hour together at University for 12 months before our first kiss.

I loved her and knew we would marry from the moment we met but she made the first move on the kissing front.

Try that link again:

First kiss

sweet story

Not sure if this thread means a 24/7 or a once a week.

How about the crazy falling head over heels in love or the slow start. Tell me to start my own if you like.

hello csl why do you ask? is it about the man you were keen on a while ago? (hopes for a promising new instalment )

I think slow start. It's so exciting at the beginning when you are counting down the hours then minutes to your next date.

We've seen each other every spare second of every day for the past 2 years and we are just about to get married.

We are so happy

Got pregnant 6 hours into 2nd date

That made our minds up for us!

Treedelivery. OMG for real? Guess if you are both at the same place then great.

Got very lucky and it all turned out grand.

Phew!

Wow, treedelivery! I go for the pocket approach myself- we were properly together from the night we met...with perhaps a better handle on contraception

Indeed!! What can I tell you? it was New Years Eve, it was snowing, I'd had 12 g&t's and a kebab.........

It all led to this though....www.photobox.co.uk/album/28442888?channel=1150

pasword jessiebell if you're fancying a nosey. And the resulting lovies in my profile.

Again....very lucky!

We lived 100-500 miles apart for 4 years. So slow burn. But I knew he was the one, and am still madly in love 10 years on from our first date.

Checked it all out. Well done. maybe I should rethink.

Oh wow! (again, LOL!)

Which pic is the baby? Or are we waiting? My eye is drawn to the beautiful little girl with the red hair, because my gorgeous dd2 is a cutie like that (on my pics)- but with brown eyes...she is a monkey even though she can't talk!

Your dd has very similar hair to mine!! She is so so so beautiful. Love red hair and brown eyes, very soulfull combination.

Do you look like your portrait? Cos thats just rudely pretty and beautiful. Are you a model?
Top pic in the profile is the newbie around here, Harriet. Lower down Pic of very newborn grumpy baby is dd1, Jess. Now 4. Yikes.

Poor dh, he only went on a night out and now he is surrounded by redheaded women!

Hehehehe- your husband got lucky bigtime

I am so chuffed you like dd's pic- I think she is so yummy, but I know I'm biased! My DP painted that portrait of me when we met, and he's an amazing artist- it is definitely a good likeness! I would love him to paint dd...I could just see her as a sprite in a fantasy painting!

God you're a bit of a hot mamma BoF! She is definately elfin. Lovely.

So does she not talk?

(Not mentioning BoF's pics again, as am v )

DH and I started going out at school, we were part of same large 'gang' of mates, so every day we saw each other and most evenings were all out together but were both 17 so went home to our own beds.
Then he moved to uni, 250 miles away, then I moved to uni, first the other end of the country, then the other side of europe for a year seeing each other as often as we could, normally monthly.
Then we moved in together and 13 years later are here with 2 dd's. Sort of schoolkid intense mixed with slow burn then.

It worked as I would say he is my best friend. Even girls I was at school with aren't my mates as mmuch as DH is now.

Slow burn never works imo. You have to have that "hit by a thunderbolt" feeling (if you are an emotional being). I have a friend however who only ever wanted a man with a car, house and ability to reproduce. She's more than happy with what she got, so maybe if you're not too emotional you can be happy with slow burn (or in my friend's case, no burn!)

Hope you didn't mind me asking BoF, you mentioned it in your message. Am too JackBauer!! And what about BoF!!?? That hair and those lips!!!

MGB she could be burning up every night in her ivory towers. Better than sitting in squalor with a fit but boring guy.

Started off as a bit of a slow burn (I was on the rebound ). But after about 3 weeks I got that Thunderbolt moment and BANG! We moved in together and got engaged after being together for 2 months. I was only 17. Been together 14 years now and married for 10.

Thing is, for every joyous story of either iinstant shagfest or long-slow-unhand-me-you-beast-till-date-66 turning into wonderful long term relationships, there will be an equal number of stories of slow or fast relationships that fizzled out or turned into horrendous abusive nightmares. Some relationships 'work' (in that, however long they last, the participants enjoy them and think fondly of the other person afterwards) and some don't (whether it's a prolonged shitfest of abuse, hostility, boredom etc or something that just doesn't last long and ends messily). If you want to do the couplehood thing, then enter into each attempt with an optimistic open mind, but don't flog any dead horses.