Dh and I were haveing a lovely old time last night, watching the 100 best albums on ch4 and reminiscing about what each album meant to us. I wondered if Fat Boy Slim would be in there as that was the first record we danced to together. Out of the blue, dh announces that he knows I think he's a rubbish dancer, and furthermore, I made him feel like shit on new year's eve because I was up dancing all night and he felt left out!!
Quick background: dh isn't the most rhythmic dancer in the world, it has to be said but he enjoys it and so I have tried to bear this in mind when we dance and not comment on it. Earlier on in our relationship I did find it quite embarrassing but, shucks, the man has many other talents and is a fantastic dh and dad so I don't mind it at all nowadays. (that's big of me, isn't it? - I sound like a right patronising cow but I really don't mean to!)
At NY we went to a friend's house, there were 3 couples there and we've all known each other donkeys' years. After dinner we all started dancing, just piss-takey stuff, disco dancing, 'raving', etc. The others got bored/exhausted and sat out but I carried on and they were all clapping me and pissing themselves laughing. Later on some neighbours came round and I started dancing again with dh's best mate. There was no flirting at all, we were just being stupid, doing Kylie dancing and body-popping, basically making prats of ourselves andshowing off alarming. Everyone else was talking and watching us and laughing. The next day everyone said what a good laugh they'd had, including dh.
But now he tells me that he felt left out all night (even though I did dance with him at the start when everyone else joined in) and that I made him feel like shit. This put a total dampener on the evening last night so I went to bed on my own, feeling like I'd been a complete witch to dh on NYE, that I'd been showing off, trampling over his feelings, etc. But is he being childish or is this thing about him dancing made him feel insecure? I feel quite angry with him and we haven't spoken much at all. Now he's gone to work. He said he doesn't want to talk about it if it ends up being a row but I feel rubbish about what was a great night at NYE now. Does this mean I never have to dance again (like George Michael) in case I hurt his feelings? Am I being insensitive or does he need to get over himself?
Sorry to bring this up when so many other people have proper problems. Would appreciate views, esp from people with rubbish-dancing partners!