Should I stay or should I go?

[lessoftwoevils]

OK,my situation is this and would like some advice please.

Am married with 2 children who are 5 and 7.
DH is constantly coming home drunk to varying degrees and tonight he has just come in as I am putting the children to bed staggering and incoherant.
We sleep in seperate beds and have done for awhile due to his drinking and are just about civil to each other.

So what do you think is best for the children.

A-To stay in the marriage and shield my children from his drinking as much as I can.
Although this is getting harder as the children get older.
A friend said that they have seen first hand experience of what parents splitting up can do to children and she advised me to keep them safe and happy and just continue with the marriage.

B-Divorce him,as much as that would cause heartache all round the children would not have to witness his drinking.

Would appreciate any advice.

Hmmm, to all those saying 'get him some help'
it's not that easy when someone has a drinking problem. They have to want to stop themselves. You can help until you're blue in the face, if they don't want to stop they won't. It really is that simple.

I see Attila has posted on the thread and given her usual excellent advice so I won't give you any more of mine.

His drinking is not your fault lessoftwoevils. Please don't think it is.

Just realised I implied my advice was excellent . That wasn't what I meant!

Good luck to you, OP.