Ok - so I'm the main breadwinner - we have two kids - and my dh has done the bulk of the childcare since they were born. Over the past few years as they've got older he's begun to develop his career again - he's an artist - with quite a lot of success. I've given him a lot of encouragement because he lost confidence after being a stay at home Dad for a long time. (long story). However recently he has become obsessed, and I mean, obsessed, with making music. He spends all the time the kids are at school making and recording songs and tinkering on myspace, and he seems to think he has a real chance of "making it" in music. Now before you dismiss him as a sad 40 year old in the grip of a midlife crisis, I have to say that his songs are really, really good. I was surprised. But he's 40! There are people less than half his age working in the business. But I'm worried that he's going to annoy all his art people by neglecting his commissions, and lose the ground he has made so far. SHould I back off, leave him to it, support him, or tell him to grow up? Cheers in advance. I know this sounds like an episode of Lipstick Jungle, but it is, in fact, my life.