comuppence or what?

[atterual]

last year I posted on here about my new husband being done for child pornography. I eventually got the courage to throw him out. Now in the past two weeks he has contacted me and told me that he has to have a biopsy on a lump which has come up under his arm. (he has previously had skin cancer some 5 years ago. I feel very sorry for him if this turns out to be as bad as I am expecting it to be, but I cant help thinking this is his comuppence for what he has done? what do you think?

Karma? Not sure.

I think it's very sad if it turns out to be serious. It's not something I'd wish on anyone no matter how awful they might have been. But then I'm not a great believer in karma

I certainly dont wish it on him, not at all. I suppose Im inwardly feeling guilty for throwing him out and adding to his problems and thinking that the stress of it all has brought this on. I dont know Im no doctor, but for me to continue with my life, I had to get him out of it.

Sorry, that was my clumsy way of saying I don't think it's comuppance for what he has done not an attack on you.

He sounds like he created his own problems and you have to do what it right for you no matter what that means to him. I think most of us would throw him out in the circumstance too.

I was a little concerned that you were thinking I had wished this on him!! lol. I still care about what happens to him, Im also worried that he may be telling lies to get some attention from me which he hasnt had since I booted him in November. But how can I say to him that I dont believe him, Im just having to go along with it, be as sympathetic as I can and see what happens. Out of the goodness of my heart I asked if he wanted me to go with him for support, but he declined and said his daughter was going with him!

if he'd been my husband he wouldn't be facing this prospect because I would already have killed him.

I did want to kill him, just thought better of it thats all!

atterual, I remeber your posts

do you think he may be exagerating this for effect, to get back in your good books?

seems a little too dodgy on the timing to me

you were wrong to offer him physical support, you really should distance yourself before you get sucked back in

if it is true and he becomes seriously ill, of course you can offer sympathy, but at a clear distance that is understood by both of you

he has his daughter, his health is really not your concern now