I know its not the done thing but what happened.........

[macdoodle]

to LostPerspective's thread ??? I last posted after her H had responded and now poooofffff - can someone fill me in and then am happy for this thread to be pulled if necc.....sorry

Is "the complexity of human emotion" code for "how much I really want to shag someone else"?

I missed the (d)h coming on, so did he imply that he'll carry on doing what he likes regardless, or what? FWIW, I think some posters thought it was more the other woman in the wrong and that he was somewhat "misguided" but if he came on and had a rant then he won't win many votes here

Oh dear. I missed this but can categorically say that I am not narrow-minded OR uneducated! He WOULD think the worst of us because it doesn't suit him to see himself through the eyes of others.

Poor LP.

Lostperspective wanted the thread deleted as her and her dh were talking things through and it was no longer helpful for them to have the thread on here

oh - was this the thread about the tennis playing friend? Did he come on and act like a twat and conform to the 'all these women are bitter old hags with bad advice' stereotype? Sad. I thought there was some good advice in amongst all the stupid 'set him a trap' posts

It was more a case of failing to admit that he had betrayed, let down, lied to and possibly humiliated someone he claimed to love more than anyone, then justifing his behaviour - and refusing to give it up - on the grounds of him being a writer and a PhD and therefore much cleverer and more sensitive than anyone else.

Is there a name for this? If not, I would suggest Myerson Syndrome.

lol, balloonslayer.
very nice, concise and erudite.

Are we allowed to talk about this because I really feel the need for a good rant, couldn't believe he still wanted coffee/pint or play tennis

Probably not . . . I feel the same as you though, PlumBumMum (I do like your nickname)

thank you and I liked your posts on that thread

Although I'm really interested in knowing how many mumsnetters are truly comfortable with their dh having friends of the opposite sex, was going to start a thread but I'm crap at that

I don't understand why we can't talk about it- threads aren't just for the OP afterall. Has MNHQ said we can't? Like Myerson Syndrome

Oh, and despite any impression I give to the contrary here, I am actually rather well-educated and emotionally literate, Mr Lost

Yeap I'm with you Bitoffun, as if the thread was no longer helpful don't read it again, it could have been helping someoneles which is what I thought mn was all about

*someone else

I'm really quite happy with the idea of my DH having friends of the opposite sex... I have no problem with that at all, but I would be mighty unhappy if I found out about a friendship he'd decided to keep from me as the OP's DH did...

For me, that would be what set alarm bells ringing. If the OP's DH honestly truly wanted a friendship - nothing more, then there is no reason on earth why you would want to keep that secret.

No wonder the bloke hasn't got many friends!!

Thanks for putting me straight Baloonslayer--obviously misread part of the thread

I think it is probably ops right to take a thread off but I have to say I was really keen to know what happened. LP seemed so distressed and i feel bad that her desire to be honest with her (arse of a) dh has meant she cant communicate with us anymore.

I did read his post and just in case you are still checking in - I have a phd. I also hold an mba, a degree and professional membership of no fewer than three respected organisations within my industry. I am, like you, a published writer. I still think you are a selfish, self obsessed shit of a man with no respect for his partner and quite frankly neither of the women you are quite blatantly playing games with at the moment should be putting up with your crap.

End of rant (sorry but he really pissed me off!)

MA from Oxford in Lit Hum

• and what prettyfly1 said.

I still think it was written by a Troll trying to get a female perspective on his affair

I must admit that was what I thought once I'd realised the thread had been deleted so abruptly and I hate it usually when people immediately shout troll. Maybe I'm wrong but LP was so calm and understanding and reasonable/ he was a writer.......... Or maybe it was genuine, she is really the saint that she protrays herself to be and I'm just an old hag who would've kicked him out at the beginning

portrays obviously

It wasn't abruptly if you happened to be on and watching the posts, though, helsbels.

He posted his justification, a few of us posted our two-fingers, and then she posted to say that she had asked for it to be deleted and thanks etc.

Then we all piled in with more thorough character analyses of the husband just before it disappeared.

But if you were out and missed it all then it would seem very abrupt, yes.

Ah, thanks BalloonSlayer! I caught up with it that lunchtime but then when I checked back later on, it had vanished, hence me thinking it was all done quickly. Shame I missed him coming on - I'd have enjoyed telling him what I thought