one of the most lonely days in my life....

[israel]

...to cut a long story short I emigrated to australia...7 months ago....the country is lovely...but my relationship with my husband has gone from bad to worse....and Im feeling so alone and isolated.....
after trying for yrs to make it work...i realy thought a new begining and something we could work at together would help us.....but no.
....and to make things worse...his mother...who is awful...has booked a one way flight to follow us...I dont want her coming to us...but he has said yes....last night was the end....he said he would put her first....and it wasnt a contest....I have been sat in the park watching my son play and tears have just rolled down my face.....I want to get my self respect back and dont want to try any more...help

has he always been like this? xp useed to punish me by not letting me sleep - its a very effective method of control. can you go to the british embassy to get some help going home? you dont deserve to feel like this

I must say i think this is terribly selfish of your dh to put you and his children through this! I dont really know what to suggest as you have done all you can actually do so far. Is there anyone in the uk (family etc) who could come over and stay with you?

he has never done anything like this before...its just not happened...even if we have argued before...
I have a dd...of 13...not his...but he adopted her...and has been with us since she was 2....and we have a son together 4....we are all just heartbroken...and i am finding the strain unbearable...every minute every hour...days nights...just waiting

he has used the bank account so he is safe. i think he has taken the pssport to ensure you will all be there when he gets back, so i dont think he will stay away forever. this sounds like a control issue to me, he is being a git. sorry that doesnt help much

Hi Israel, have just read this thread - my god, how awful for you. I feel absolutely terrible for you. Like others have said, at least you know he is ok, so you don't have to panic that he's done something stupid. If I were you I would try my utmost (and its easily said when it isn't happening to me) to be as calm and as focused as possible, a sense of normality around the children if you can, and sit it out til he comes back, but in the meantime start formulating your plan of action. No matter what he says or does when he returns, keep your cool, don't lose it, listen to whatever he has to say, and don't antagonise him. Get the goddamn passport, wait til he's gone to work (I am presuming he works all day) then take the children and go. What he's put you through is a disgrace, you cannot stay with this man. You and your children need to feel safe, secure, and happy. You have family and friends back here who will help you. Come back, and start your life again. Be strong, think positive. He is NOT your life. You deserve better, and you can have better. Start thinking very hard and planning. You can do this. xxxxxx

are you ok israel?

today is wednesday.....the police here in australia have now stepped up their search....there are still no other transactions from the bank....its the 4rth day...where would he have slept..food ...petrol....we are all so worried....
i am sat at home waiting...but a friend has taken the children for the day...for some normality....I just weep for them.
and over and over i replay the scene of him coming back...and ill want to kill him and hug him at the same time....but i know I must remain calm...thats if he does come back...Ill deal with what will happen next when / if he does....if any of you reading this..pray....then please remember him...and us in your prayeres and keep him safe.

oh israel, you are all in my thoughts

how for North was the bank transaction? Is in a 4WD? Does he know the territory?

Do let me know if there is anything I can do to help

Oh israel - I remember your posts about your dh (and your MIL) before you emigrated. I'm so sorry things have turned out like this. I hope he comes back soon and stops putting you all through this nightmare. And once you have the passport situation sorted out I really think you should come home. Enough is enough. I can't imagine what you are going through - thinking of you.

its 12 midnight here...2 hrs ago...I got the news that he is alive.....is in hospital after trying to commit suicide....doctors say he is very lucky to be here....overdose and slit wrists...not a cry for help...but def...wanted to kill himself.....Im not sure yet how he got to the hospital...but he had been wandering in the bush....he will need a lot of psychiatric help...but he is alive...thank god...thank god

Oh israel, thank the lord he is Ok. You still have a long way to go, but you must be so relieved.

yes...so relieved...as you say...a long way to go...they said he will need lots of psychatric help...may be at a seperate hospital when the physical scars have healed....
I just cant wait for tomorrow when I can just hug him...and hold him...a day at a time now...and thanking god he lived

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so relieved for you -- hope you mange to get through this and get the peace you so need in your life....

oh israel...im so sorry to hear this awful news...thinking of you and hope that your dh can get the best help to sort him out

you must have a mixed bag of emotions now, relieved is one of them to find out that you now know where dh is, sad because he tried to commit suicide.

thinking of you
xx

So sorry Israel, hope you are ok, lots of love xxx

I'm glad he's been found, israel - but horrified it's like this. I don't really know what to say - I hope you can find a way through this, and that your dh gets the help he needs.

Only just seen this. I am so sorry to read what has happened. Thinking of you.

I cant sleep..(its 5 in the morning)..but wanted to express my thanks to you all....this was a site that kept me going when there was no one around....at least I could come on here and tell someone....
I am longing for the hrs to go by where I can see him.....and as a few of you have said...such a mixed bag of emotions....but the overriding one being relief....its going to be a long road....and time wil tell just what the outcome will be...I just want to scream..."HE'S ALIVE"

i'm so pleased he has been found israel, but so sorry for the way it has ended. I hope you and your family find a way through this, and you all find some peace.

so sorry israel, feel crap for saying he was just being mean. i hope you can all get through this, you must be amazing to be holding it all together for your kids

Israel, I have been following this thread and am relieved that he has been found but so very sorry to hear what happened. Like everyone else I am thinking of you and wish you all the very best for the road ahead. Please keep in touch.

Hi israel, I too have been following your thread. I am so sorry for what has happened. Let's hope that he will get the professional help he needs now and you can find your way through this together. I can sense the love in your tone when you talk about him - he's been away somewhere in his head, hasn't he, and left you bewildered wondering where your dh had gone At least now you know and can begin to put the pieces together to bring him back. xxx

well...I saw him today...he looks awful....but he can talk and walk.....we just hugged loads...cried loads and talked gently....
the overwhelming feelings to just take him up in my arms and hold him....I cant express....but there is a lot to sort out now...and he will need lots of time.....they have been talking about months in the psychiatric hospital....but who knows....just a day at a time.
I left the children with someone outside the hospital...and he asked to see them....so I brought them in....they were all so quiet together...just sitting and looking, holding...my heart was bursting.
thank you all for your support...
I will update you on his progress...
if any of you did pray for us...I am convinced a miracle happened...and he was saved