I am fuming

[lavenderrr]

I just asked friend if he was enjoying it and of course he said yes, why have a friend around if you're going to just cary on as you normally would, makes my blood boil, really does.

If the friend doesn't like it, he doesn't have to do it. Perhaps this is some kind of male bonding that we girlies know nothing about.

If you want to watch the film, go in and watch it, you don't have to feel banished to the kitchen. If you don't want to watch it, stop fretting about whether the friend should be doing this or not and do something you want to do - have a bath, read a book, chat on MN.

ah well if hes enjoying it. it could be worse lav, they could be watching porn!

She is chatting on Mumsnet, AnnieQ!

I mean, chat on MN about something else, not sit fuming about her dh and his friend! She'll send her blood pressure sky-high if she keeps stressing about that!

er, what can the friend do, say excuse me but I don't want to watch this, imho he can't really say he doesn't want to watch it , IT'S CALLED MANNERS...he is a very polite lovely man, he wouldn't say if he was annoyed but might be...I rest my case.

cant see the problem really lav, the friend may be enjoying it, yes dh was rude for just sticking it on. but guest doesnt appear to be looking for an escape route. SPR is a very very good film IIRC.

Actually, he could quite easily say no if he wanted to. Men just see things differently to us sometimes. Try not to put words into his mouth or second-guess how he's feeling; he's a big boy, he can speak up for himself.

i'll just shut up then...

Nobody said shut up, Lav, don't be silly.

ditto, nobody said shut up, dont worry about what DH and friend are doing, yes it is rude to stick video on but unless guest seems offended, dont let it ruin your evening.
if he is offended he simply wont come again for dinner! ( and you wiont have to worry about doing a bbq!)

My hubby has a friend come to us we go out then come back and stick a film on.
It's a male thing. If your friend thought it was rude sure he could speak up for himself, or maybe he won't come around again after this.

they're chatting now and then, sorry for making a mountain out of molehill am just crap at stuff sometimes.