how to be resilient as a couple - DH being Eeyore

[newbrooms]

DH often is mopey and miserable around the house, often heading off to surf internet. always complaining of being ill, seeing things like birthdays (DS1&2, mine) as being "something to get over"... makes no effort with arranging a break or a holiday.

DH has been promoted, adjusting to new work. has been complaining of minor ailments - headache, colds, etc - almost constantly since the new year. has asthma so having a cold does affect him worse than an ordinary person, so I have been cutting him some slack.

I'm getting angry/frustrated at taking on a lot of extra childcare and housework when it doesn't seem to be improving his health/wellbeing and he is still moaning - I don't see what else I can do.

how can we get our respective peckers up again? anyone with similar experiences?

I do this when I am depressed, would this be the root of the problem?

thanks for getting back to me Spring.

I don't think so - unless men have a very different way of being depressed to women... he still has motivation for things he is interested in, just not much energy, focusing on the negative side of things.

I have one of them -- that could be my new login, "Married2Eeyore".
Mine is a bit depressed I suspect, so I'm not much help. Just sympathetic.