MIL rant

[sazzerbear]

OK so it's not as bad as some of the other MIL posts on here but AIBU to be a little taken aback when (after DH mentioned it in passing) MIL asked me outright "what was your blood test for, then?" We are not even particularly close - is it really any of her business?!!

if he mentioned it to her in passing, she prob just basically wanted to know!! Is she normally just off the cuff? If so then yabu, becuase you should know her by now!!!

She normally is pretty "direct", however she catches me off guard every so often - you are right piratecat, I should know her better!

sazzerbear - yanbu. If you're not close, then it's strange to ask. My MIL is like that - not interested in anyone at all, unless she thinks there might be some interesting gossip to be had, and then she is all ears

You see piratecat I don't go by this idea that if she's always off the cuff/rude then it should just be accepted. Rude is rude, and just because one is always rude, doesn't surely make it tolerable? DH is always excusing his mother's behaviour, saying that's just the way she is.

How does the old saying go? "You can choose your friends but you can't choose your family"

I think it's a fair enough question given that she's your MIL - it's not like it was some random stranger asking you. It's reasonable that she should be concerned that it might be serious - for your DH's sake, if not yours.

Hassled - I would have thought sazzerbear's DP is old enough to look out for himself. If his mother is asking this on his behalf then she needs to realise this. If she's asking because she's interested in sazzerbear's health, that's a different matter. However from the OP it looks like the MIL doesn't generally take an interest in her wellbeing.