have you ever left a dp you were still in love with?

[juicychops]

i love my dp but things just arn;t working any more. i want to finish it but its too hard as i love him so much (i think i do)

Hi Juicy - sorry you are feeling this way. What's the prob with him? Why is it not working?

Completley understand. Things not been working with mine for years BUT do still love him (again i think!)and don't know if i have the courage to leave

hi thanks for replies. i love my dp but i just dont feel the same about us as i used to.

we have been together for 3 years. we dont live together yet so although we are serious about eachother it doens;t feel like our relationship is very serious and i just dont feel like we want the same things

in my life im ready to settle down etc but im not ready to settle down with him yet

we have had so many arguments lately and we said prety horrible things together. i nearly ended it there and then but after we calmed down we were sitting together just cuddling and i couldn;t bring myself to say the words as i still love him

i know that he loves me too and he has assured me he wants to spend the rest of our lives together. i just feel confused about what i want and how i feel

i know that im not scared of being alone so thats not the problem.

Yes.

yes, but best thing i ever did.

oh yes. Loved him but incompatible. How about a trial separation? do you have dc?

no we dont have dcs together. ive suggested a trial separation in the past but he's not willing to do that. he says i either want to be with him or i dont

i know that if we split up il be ok in the long run but i just cant bear the pain of leaving someone i love who i know loves me too.
and what if its the wrong decision? i wont know until its too late

I'd say this is like pretty much all break ups.

The actual thought of losing the person makes you forget all the bad stuff, and only remember the good times and how nice it was in the early days.

Often you have to break up repeatedly to realise that you can't stay together for the sake of a memory.

I broke up with a guy who in many ways was the love of my life. It was totally the right thing to do. I'd already grieved for the relationship before it ended though, as we'd been arguing for so long.

In reality, staying together because you can't face breaking up is a fairly shaky foundation for a relationship.