How to be tactful...??

[veryembarrassedmummy]

This is not a really big deal, but I could do with some suggestions..

an old school friend is trying to arrange a re-union with a few other people ( all girls).
They were more her friends than mine, and I have no interest in seeing them at all. I haven't seen her for ages- we do Xmas and birthday cards and that's it really.

I like her, but am not at all fussed about travelling etc to meet up with the others. She is wanting to try to do something and has asked me to contact her so she can set things rolling.

any ideas how to wriggle out of it?

you could be honest that you cont really know them and wouldn't feel comfortable or you could go and surprise yourself in having really good time

i normally force myself to do these things as I'll either hate it make excuses and leave early or i have the best time and glad i made the effort to do something different

But I DO know them- we were all at school for 7 yrs. They were in her "class" not mine,m although we also did other things in school so we interacted- clubs etc. They just aren't my type, tbh. Ther would just be the 4 of us.

I had this a few weeks ago.. went along and had the best time ever!!

Did she not ask whether you would be intersted at the beginning when first mentioned?

Well if it involves you having to travel some distance and stay over, why not say that you have a lot on just now/are really budgetting tightly because of the economic situation, and now is not a very good time, but she should go ahead without you as you don't want to spoil things for the others.

She has asked in a rather "this is what I plan to do - would you like to join us" way.

How can I say "no" politely! She's fine, but the other two were never really my friends-and I think one of them at least is not that keen on me- I think we fell out when we were about 7!

Just say you are cutting right back on trips etc cos you're skint. No need to go, oh, I don't like them, they're cows, don't want to, BWAAAAAAAHHHH!.