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Alarm Bells ringing over DP

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ImNameChangingForThis · 04/03/2009 21:29

I have a great DP although he has been a cheat in his past, never since we've been together. Now and again I get suspicious but it seems to be me being paranoid and hormonal.

However, he's been engaged before and I was curious as to who she was as he says she's a bitch etc. However, I can sense that she always had a hold over him and he seems to go weird if I ever mention her so I wonder if she still does.

A friend of mine on facebook is friends with her, and so I looked at her page- she seemed very immature considering she's older than me.

Anyway, I didn't tell him I'd looked until about a week and a half or 2 weeks later. He was all weird about it, but was trying not to be, but i know him very well. I said I felt uneasy that there was loads of pics of her with his friends and he seemed to be the only person missing IYSWIM. I've only ever met his friends once in 2 years- at our son's christening. Yet he goes out with them sometimes, but hasn't for about 3 months as we're saving. By the next evening she'd made her page private. I thought this was a bit suspicious.

He had some bad credit when we applied for something and it came up as her address. Tonight he said 'well she's moved anyway hasn't she?' I said 'How would I know? How would you know?' He said 'What?' which he always says to bide himself time to think. Then he goes 'she moved before we met'. I know that she lives on the street that has come up on the credit profile, so then he said 'only across the road though'.

Then he went really strange and sheepish and said 'oh come on babe, we'e got a good thing going'.

That's a strange thing to say. We get married in a couple of months, we're happy together, and yet I just feel weird tonight like I've stepped on an area he didn't want me to IYSWIM?

Am I being crazy?

OP posts:
dilemma01 · 05/03/2009 16:13

Only read the op, but have to say, there are many photos of me with people, and many of soon to be exh with the same people, but none of me and him in same pic, we have the same group of friends but will never be seen out together.

MorrisZapp · 05/03/2009 16:40

Why don't you know his friends? That bit sounds very weird.

dollius · 05/03/2009 18:01

I'm quite concerned that you've only been wheeled out to meet his friends once. Are they not curious about the mother of his child?

I would urge a full and frank discussion about this. Why are you not invited to things like christenings and other get togethers with his friends? Do they think you have broken up? Do they know you are getting married?

Doha · 05/03/2009 18:39

Fishy

Fishy

Fishy

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