Anyone not immediately found their now dh or dp attractive? either phsically, humourwise, or personality? Like to hear your stories!!!!

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I kind of like someone I think!! Not my normal 'type' physically, but makes me laugh. Yet also (bearing in mind i am prob v sensitve and out of the dating game) some comments he's made have been a bit ego ish iyswim. Yet generally i just get that feeling it's a bloke thing, when they get flustered.

Yuo'd never think i was in my early 40's formthis post and been married, but i'd love to know your tales!!

im shallow
if they aint physically attractive to me they dont stand a chance

lol ok i won't ring your dh!!

i sent a grovelling text this morning, as i realsied i been a wally,. I just don't know what happens to my senses sometimes. Altho i also out this down to not having had any male attention or contact for many yrs.

I actually sent about 3 texts. He has now replied briefly. I think i hurt him, WHY did i do that.!

good god.

pc..just read whole thread..you have only been out with him once...is that right?

don't send him anymore txts.., it's cool to let someone know you like them and would love to spend more time getting to know them...but if you don't get the right vibes back...time to walk away.

Yes, I thought mine was very odd looking!

He's wonderful. They can grow on you.

no we havent met yet, how sad am i . we started chating back last sept. on and off. i was terrified ( see various threads about wanky ex and dysfuntional dd etc...)

We have bee on the phone for a week for hours at a time. Were meant to meet sunday, but i didn't hear back from him . I am not sure why, i think he bottled it tbh, but he did contact me late in the evening asking after me, my day etc...
from that moment i just got the 'fear factor'. We then arranged for today, then last night i got the heebie jeebies 2.

who knows what will happen, but i feel like i 've said my bit, and have apologised for being reactionary, so we'll see eh.

christivelefttheironon ( great name btw)

your post made me !!

A few points I think are worth mentioning....

If you keep going for the type of man you have always gone for (your 'type') you will always get the type of relationships you have always got.

From your posts it seems as if you are placing a lot of expectations on this date and this man. You haven't even met him yet!

Just go along, have a good time, see if you get along and then you can decide if you want to meet him again. Just take it slow. No one is asking you to decide if you want to marry him yet, are they?

I had a period of internet dating after coming out of a rubbish long term relationship. I didn't meet the man of my dreams, but I did meet lots of nice men. It taught me that there are plenty of men out there, that most of them are lovely, but best of all it taught me a bit more about what I do and don't want in a relationship.

Go, have fun, and see how it all goes. Don't over analyse things!

I first me my (eventually to be) DH in 1989 at work. He said something along the lines of "Lose some weight off your arse, Porto, and I'll take you out." I told him to piss off. I absolutely detested him and found him very intimidating.

Anyway over time I got to know him a bit better, and with mutual friends, stayed in contact. He actually bought me a set of knives as a wedding present when I married my ex.

We eventually got together (properly - as there were some illicit dalliances) in 2001, had dd in 2004 and got married a year later. These days I love him to bits. Though my arse has only every increased in size!

lol at the knife set and arse comments. You nkow how men say we speak a different language, i think they do to.

I did meet him last night, i was very very nervous. I liked him, but i didn't think 'corrrrr' we had a couple non alcoholic drinks which was really wierd. ( both driving) so i felt quite ill at ease, no dutch courage type thing.

Now i thought he'd be very overbearing, or too jokey, but he was dead quiet and shy!!!

so thanks to you ladies who siad just go see. Oh and yes i always overanylise things, totally crap at being a go with flow type thing.

So i came home told my sis i didn't fancy him, then had a very rude dream about him last night.

i am confused!!!