Premature ejaculation

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Name changed for obv reasons

Feel almost guilty writing this but wanted some advice. My husband has always ejaculated early on in the proceedings....I'm talking 10 thrusts max....more like 5 or 6. The only time he has lasted longer is when he has had alcohol and then he is more likely to be unable to maintain an erection.

This is something we have only very very very briefly ever discussed because he has made it clear that he is abit embarrassed and doesn't want to discuss it. He does however see it as a problem.

He goes out of his way to satisfy me before we have sex and very very rarely enters me before I have been satisfied. In a way I don't think he enjoys sex that much because its over so quickly for him. He is the same with a hand job or blow job...lasts a bit longer.

I thought things might improve as we got older but it's still the same. He's nearing 40 now. He doesn't masturbate very often either.

Not sure what I want advice with really - techniques to help him last a bit longer I guess but is there anyway I can do this without telling him why. I woulod hate for him to think he wasn't satisfying me sexually because he is in other ways but the actual sex part is not.

rather pitiful bump

Your pitiful bumping has found a sympathiser lol

I find that if i get DP to do the job himself first about an hour earlier he lasts longer the second time.

You're lucky, mine thinks foreplay is something to do with golf

Have you tried asking him to stop moving when he is about to come? If he stops and concentrates or thinks of someone he definitely would not want to shag (this works for my DP apparently ) it helps stop them coming.

There is something called the squeeze technique you could google, and broach the subject with him in terms of something you'd like to do with him to increase his pleasure rather than because it's a problem IYSWIM? Hope that helps.

BOF is this the same squeeze technique i would like to apply to paddy mcguinness' head with my thighs

I suppose i should be grateful too that it doesn't take DP long..after all it apparently means he lusts after me
OP i still sympathise... the squeeze technique is where he feels like he is going to come soon and pulls out n squeezes the end of his penis v v hard until the feeling goes away, then repeats this until you are ready..still doesn't do the trick if you want to 'cum' through having sex..because of the constant interruption .. getting him to DIY or you helping him an hour or so before is best IMO

Ooooo there's some stuff you can paint on their willy that makes it very hard for them to cum.. used this on DP once and he was banging away for ages, good for me but not for him lol.. he whined about not being able to cum till i cast him a withering look and asked how it felt for once

Here ya go

thanks

he has tried the squeeze technique but it seems to make him lose his erection and desire totally

might try the not moving thing although when I've sort of tried it when on top he's cum anyway and it was a bit crap because he'd stopped

i have often wondered if his lack of masturbation was to blame for this but cant see a subtle way to persuade him to wank more

my mind is boggling at painting stuff on that stops it

thanks for the suggestions and the sympathies. I do consider myself lucky that he is very attentitive to me but I do wish it could be a bit different at times.

How about if you get him off via foreplay, then he gives you loads of foreplay (manual and oral) so that when you finally get to penetration he is going to last longer and you are going to be more turned on so it wil be better for both of you.
Otherwise, if you don't use barrier contraception, I have heard that using condoms can sometimes make a bloke last a bit longer becasue they make his nob a bit less sensitive.

thanks for that Solid

I will try it....he's very much a cum and snore type of guy though and wont let me touch him much in foreplay because he's cum before penetration

we already use condoms

lots of suggestions - thanks very much

Smack it with a hammer

OP click on the link i posted, it says here ya go.. it will take you to a page full of stuff to paint/spray on whatever lol

Im not quite 10 thrusts and done but not much better. I always try to ensure my OH enjoys things but worry she isn't. I've asks her but she says not to worry - should I?