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Really wierd email, how do I handle it?

58 replies

SourCreamnChive · 03/03/2009 08:18

Last night I received an email from a male friend saying stuff like "I just wanted to tell you how much I want you, I want to make love to you ... " etc etc

There is NOTHING going on between me and this bloke, we're not even that friendly enough to joke around with each other like this and he is happily married with children.

It's VERY out of character for him which leads me to believe that it wasn't him that wrote it. It did however come from his email address and was addressed personally to me and sighned off in his name.

Surely even if he didn't write it, he will know of its existance since it came from his address?

Do I mention it to him (as in a "hey, what you playing at sending me saucy emails lol") or totally ignore it?

OP posts:
lou33 · 03/03/2009 18:44

i would reply telling him that you would get back to him once you had checked with his wife that she didnt mind

squeaver · 03/03/2009 21:06

bump

georgiemum · 03/03/2009 21:10

Dodgy virus? I got one from a friend asking me to buy some electical equipment. She said that a virus had got onto her computer and was sending out e-mails from her account.

YouKnowNothingoftheCrunch · 04/03/2009 09:16

Update?

solidgoldbullet4myvalentine · 04/03/2009 09:19

VIrus is actually a possibility. So is a computer-literate practical joker. Agree with everyone who said, send it back with a 'don't think you meant this for me matey' comment and leave it at that.
You don't have to tell your own partner, if you have one and he is the sort to get all arsey about it: you haven;t done anything wrong.

Lemontart · 04/03/2009 09:22

Come on then!! Let us have an update..

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SourCreamnChive · 04/03/2009 09:55

Thanks for the replies. I ended up sending an email back saying "Obviously meant for someone else, will delete".

I later got a grovelling phone call apologising and saying it was meant for someone else, his wife.

Still not sure why it had my name on it but I've decided to just leave it

Apparantly his wife wouldn't be too pleased if she heard about it so he's asked me not to mention it.

Very strange! still so out of character but still

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HappyWoman · 04/03/2009 09:57

but surely his wife will know about it as she will now recieve it instead.
Sounds as if he was covering his back there a bit.

geordieminx · 04/03/2009 10:01

It soooooooooooo wasnt meant for his wife - dirty b@stard

BitOfFun · 04/03/2009 10:03

Did it sound like it was for his wife?

savoycabbage · 04/03/2009 10:07

Is he trying to say that he put your name on it and then sent it to you by mistake?

SeeEmilyPlay · 04/03/2009 10:08

Nah, not having that. How can you possible confuse the two unless you have similar
email addresses.

I'd ask him to elaborate.

lucykate · 04/03/2009 10:10

if it was meant for his wife (although i don't believe it was for a second ) are her email address and yours at all similar?

NorbertDentressangle · 04/03/2009 10:11

Without a doubt it was meant for you but then, when you didn't fall at his feet or into his bed, he quickly back-tracked.

lucykate · 04/03/2009 10:13

he's so lying, if my dh had done this, he'd tell me, we'd all feel slightly embarrassed, have a laugh about it and move on. asking you not to mention it to his wife just sets off alarm bells.

SlartyBartFast · 04/03/2009 10:15

does he normally email you anyway?

have you seen him face to face since then??

i wouldnt tell wife though, just ignore it now,

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SourCreamnChive · 04/03/2009 10:16

I don't believe him one bit to be honest. His excuse was that both mine and his wife's name starts with the same letter so we're next to each other in his address book.

But then of course, he wrote my name on it! not hers. I didn't mention that though because it was awkward enough. Especially as I have to see them later.

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SlartyBartFast · 04/03/2009 10:17

did you think he liked you that way before the email??

savoycabbage · 04/03/2009 10:19

Now you are going to have to say 'Oh, I bet Jane laughed when you told her about the e-mail you sent me' otherwise you are going to be keeping it from her.

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SourCreamnChive · 04/03/2009 10:20

No Slarty, it came so out of the blue. That's another reason why it's so wierd.

I would have actually believed him MORE if he'd told me someone else had sent it for a joke. That's how odd it is to come from him.

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SlartyBartFast · 04/03/2009 10:25

that's something i spose.
how when you meet up with them later.
just take his word for it

SeeEmilyPlay · 04/03/2009 10:46

I think maybe he wrote it in a moment of drunken sincerity.

Never drink and mail!

solidgoldbullet4myvalentine · 04/03/2009 11:12

Do absolutely nothing. You have sent him a clear message that you don't fancy a fling with him; what he does next is his problem. Officious interfering, dropping hints to his wife etc will cause far more problems than they will solve.

AllFallDown · 04/03/2009 11:43

Man here ... I once sent an email declaring undying love to a colleague. It had been meant for my wife. Their names are completely dissimilar. I just had something I needed to say to my colleague on my mind at the time I wrote the message to my wife. It does happen.

dollius · 04/03/2009 11:50

Maybe it was his wife that sent it, fishing perhaps, he is embarrassed about that, doesn't want the world to know his wife suspects him of having an affair, so is trying to cover it up.