When did you first hear your parents argue?

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I don't think up until this weekend i have ever heard my parents argue, my mum has been in a bad mood with my dad before but i could count that on one hand.

It wasn't a big arguement but they argued about the new carpet in their bedroom

I was like

and then i felt really weird, my parents have always got on great, i always thought that my mum took my dad for granted a bit though and i think that this might have been him cracking.

they also had another disagreement the same day but i can't remember what it was about, something small.

i hope they will be ok.

I don't ever remember my parents arguing but they did get divorced when I was 6.

ahhh! remember the other thread today? My parents argued, three times while I lived under their roof to my knowledge!

Passive aggression rife though as well as hen pecking.

i don't remember my parents ever not arguing. and yet they stuck together for 50 years. whenever i hear raised voices i go into a very dark place....

mine NEVER argued.I had completely unreal expectations of relationships because of this

I don't remember the first time, I only remember the big ones! My dad once punched a hole in the banister (thin wood-like panel) that stayed there for years. He once threw a plate of food, like a frisbee, at my mum and it hit the wall and the food slid down it.

I didn't see it, but apparently my mum, who is skilled in quite nasty martial arts, they both say, did some sort of kick on my dad who went so hard into the sofa that it tipped up and flung him over the back of it! she also, says my dad, once threw a knife at him, and it went past him and stuck in the door at the side of him, so close that it was thumping the side of his head! double There are also apparently numerous pan shying incidents.

Nutters, the pair of them!

Oh, at a very early age. They separated when I was 7-ish, and were openly arguing like cat and dog for at least 2 years prior to that. My mum says they were having problems long before that, even.

Not sure, but I was young. My bros and I used to gather at the turn of the stairs and try to earwig rows between the parents, and look at each other with wide, frightened eyes.

Sounds dreadful doesn't it? Actually, my parents had a great marriage, got on extremely well, and we were very secure and happy children.

DH never heard his parents argue until the arguments which led to their divorce. I am firmly of the opinion that if they'd had a few decent rows before then, they might have stayed together. DH, as a consequence, will think I'm on the point of leaving him the instant I'm slightly annoyed with him, which is stultifying in the extreme, and is more likely to lead to exactly what he is afraid of, than anything else.

I remember sitting under the kitchen table crying, cuddling the dog who was shaking like a leaf while they screamed at each other. I think I was about 8. They then started divorce proceedings when I was 9ish.

I also can't remember a time when my parents didn't argue. Sarcasm was a feature in pretty much everything they said to each other. I used to listen through the heating vents and my heart would race from the anxiety.

When I was 9 years old, I wrote to an advice column in a women's magazine. Can't remember it all, but it was about how my parents were always fighting and my dad would throw things and it scared me and my 3 year old brother. Weirdly enough, they printed it when I was 12, along with a few similar letters from kids. I never told anyone about it. The advice was crap too....'tell a trusted adult'. Who could I tell, and WTF were they going to do about it?

I used to beg them to get divorced. I left home for university and didn't visit much. Finally, when I was 27 and had moved to the UK from the USA, they split up. My dad's parents were similar, they argued all the time as far as I could tell--ended with my grandfather's death at age 67.

My parents argued. They were happy together. Still are.