Just an observation really

[bestfriendswithbenefits]

Why do some ( many? ) intelligent, nice men always go for a certain type of woman? Simpering, fluffy women who massage their ego's and who you wouldn't think was their type at all. I guess the ego-massaging is the answer really isn't it?

I just find it frustrating. Men who I respect, value their opinions, just seem to think with dicks I suppose.

I suppose I am a bit put out, because I'm not that kind of woman, and I obviously haven't got "it" whatever it exactly is.

WAIT

maybe I am one?

go on, bat your eyelashes. Nooo, not at me, I'm a girl (so invisible)...

oh that's ok

I do girls too

and nice plants

pretty much anything to be honest

Ah, fluffy is the new dizzy!

More men than one tends to think, are led by their egos, not their dicks when it comes to relationships. They want a woman who thinks that the Man is the important one in the relationship.
Mind you, in my younger days I went through a maddening spell of losing FWB after FWB to appalling fucked-up bunnyboilers (the sort who have a mile-long back catalogue of disastrous relatinships, therapy, dead aquaintances etc, are utterly self-obsessed and get away with it because they are thin and pretty).
But then I am now old enough to be glad and proud about the fact that I am a much better friend than a girlfriend or partner - it suits me so much better.

DH is intelligent and lovely and I am told that I have the personality of a rottweiler (bit harsh I thought).