Hurt, Angry and wanting some ME time

[amireallythatsad]

Ok so I have posted many times before.

Here is my other main thread this page

Basically the anger is starting to hit me now, especially as H couldn't understand why I would be upset if he saw other people (not that he is, but theoretically so) especially as because if we're not together. Only broken up 10 days ago! Then because of that I put the rest of his stuff outside because, why should I keep his stuff in the house if he's not interested?

To which I was told I was being pathetic, where can he put his stuff, he's got nowhere to put it, etc etc. Then he told me not to push him, he was warning me.....nice....threatening to cut off my money or fight for custody or whatever.

Anyways it has now dawned on me that this idiot has done whatever he wanted to the last few years, I've been on the back burner.

Can I, just an idea, but say that I'm going away and he has to look after DD, I think I'd like to go to a spa for a few days. Now I know it's interuppting with his course etc etc, but he's always told me if he had custody of his DD he would give everything up. (Yeah right). I need some ME time and he needs to respect me. Which he doesnt.

So do you think I am within my rights to do it???

I know he would take good care of her, it's not that he's irresponsible, just selfish (which I suppose is worse!!!)

Can I? Can I?

Can I humilate him also in front of his friends....they all think the sun shines out of his arse???? Can I, can I?

Sorry, last post would be out of order. Its just that its a big joke between him and one of his mates, he makes out its funny if we've had a barney.
i.e. his mate will text him to see if he's coming to the pub, and he'll joke or say he's mid argument, be there in a mo....

Arse

Hey you. I feel your pain and anger, and you have every right to feel both of them.

HOWEVER - I don't think that the things you want to do are things that you will look back on with pride in the future.

Unfortunately it looks like your marriage is over, and the best way to hurt him back (which I think is what you want) is to show no emotion whatsoever. Fake it until its true.

Schedule in some YOU time at a time that it is OK for him to look at LO. Then you have that to look forward to as well. DON'T just dump her on him, as it will only cause resentment and it will make you look weak and out of control in his eyes.

And don't tell his friends what an arse he is. Tell YOUR friends. His friends are bound to be biased, and to be honest, guys don't really care about the moral behaviour of their mates anywhere near as much as us gals do.

You do need to do some things to make yourself feel better. Organise that spa weekend, spend some time with good friends, take you DD out for a day trip to the seaside..... do POSITIVE things which are about you and your LO, not NEGATIVE things about him.

I really hope that you start to feel better sooner rather than later. Its OK to feel like you feel, but, remember, it won't last forever. You will feel happy again soon.