how often do you see your parents?

[colie]

How often do you see your mum and then your dad? I was reading something recently (it was dated 1995) but stated that most adults over 16 see their mum once a week, think it was 52%, and something like 47% saw their Dads once a week.

I am feeling extremeley guilty as I don't see mine anywhere near that, and neither does dh see his anything like that amount. Granted we do live 250 miles away from them. My mum has lived about 300 miles away from me for the past 16 years so can't really compare it.

Also, this article indicated that adults with children see their mums more often than adults without children. Suppose this makes sense.

Anyhow, what are your experiences? Do you think these statistics would ring true now, over 10 years later.

Oh it is good to see it is not only myself who doesn't see parents weekly. I was beginning to think I had a very odd family indeed.

my mum - 3 to 5 times a week. She minds my children 3 times a week, and we often go for sunday lunch and/or tea in the week.

my dad - 1 to 2 times a week as my mum comes here to mind the kids so we don't see him as much.

I spend the day with my parents every Thursday (and dd too obviously) and sometimes go and see them at the weekend too. They live about 30 miles away.

Used to see ILs about once a fortnight (45 miles away) but have made the effort recently to see them every weekend as their two youngest have flown the nest and MIL in particular is missing them. We try to stay over so they can have plenty of time with dd.

i see my dad once a year.
and my mum maybe twice a year.
i see MIL every couple of months.

Sadly my mum has passed so no longer see her!

My dad however lives 15 mins away and I see him at least twice a week.

Dh on the other hand, sees his parents about 3 times a year but that is because they are about 200 miles away.

We see them about every 2 months?

I see my mum more because she is a teacher so we meet up for coffee half way between where we live when she is on holiday.

We live in Hull, my parents are in Teesside and his are in Sheffield. We could see his parents more but he is too lazy to arrange things.

I would like to live nearer my parents.

I see my mum pretty much every week because she looks after my DS one day a week. My dad I see every month or so. They are still together incidentally, it's just that she comes to me when she does the childcare. She quite likes a bit of time away from him I know

I live in Spain and my parents are in UK, so I manage to see them about 3 or 4 times a year.

We see PILs at least once a week, often more.

FIL comes over for a meal once a week. Thats more than I'd like tbh but its a routine we started when MIL died and can't seem to get out of it now.

My parents we see every school holidays. They live 120 miles away. Before ds's were at school my mum used to visit fortnightly but now she has them to stay with them for a few days every holiday while I work. We speak on the phone weekly.

I'm very jealous of those who see their parents once a week...I'd love to be able to see Mum once a week, which would be about right for me.

Glad others are on a par with us re: travelling to see parents and PIL, as we do get guilt tripped a lot and are made to feel that this isn't enough. Classic line from MIL is that DS won't know who she is but yet she won't come visit us! Whilst I'd love to see my parents more often, I couldn't stand to do the journey more often and do that to DS and unfortunately jobs mean that we can't live closer

couple of times a month.. tho phone more often

see my mum about 4 times a week, dad maybe twice a week, they only live round the corner.
ils live in australia so fortunately only have to see then once every year or 2

Mine live 4000 miles away
See them once a year for about an afternoon (we're not close... lots of ishooos)

Looks like I should be more forgiving of my in-laws and my Dad for not visiting.

Seems a common theme

My dad died in Jan but only used to see him once every 8 to 10 wks.

We see mum every day as she picks dd1 up from school everyday. She a round the corner from me and just next to dd1 school.

InLaws probaly once every 4 - 6 weeks whenever MIL phones to whinge at dh because she hasn't seen us.

About once a year, but they live in the U.S. Before I moved over here (six years ago), saw them about once every 2-3 months, sometimes a bit more often. My mom and I do better when we're separated by a big ocean I think! She calls more often now that I'm pregnant.

DH's parents we used to see nearly every week, but that was when we lived in London. Now moved 200 miles away and see them about every 2 months, but DH talks to them a couple times a week.

I haven't seen my Dad for 2 years.

I see my mum about 2x a year for a couple of very painful hours.

I haven't seen my Dad for 2 years.

I see my mum about 2x a year for a couple of very painful hours.

I see my parents most week days as they look after dd whilst I'm at work.

We see PIL once/week, sometimes more and rarely less. Dp sees his brother perhaps once/month but never as a deliberate arrangement, only because he happens to be at PIl at the same time as us.

My Mum lives 1hr 45m away. We see her on average around once every 6 weeks.

She is the only living parent, PIL's are no longer with us

castlesintheair- , we should be able to pick our parents shouldn't we.

I am surprised at the amount of people of this thread who don't live anywhere near there parents or pil's.

Seems to be quite a high proportion.

mine live 3 roads from me, i se my mum at least every other day and my dad at least once a week.

Mum - haven't seen her this year, saw her just before Christmas when she came to visit. She's an hour away.

Dad - about every 2 months

MIL - once a month

My parents live about 200 miles away. We see them every few months on average.

DH's parents live about 90 miles away. We see them every few weeks.