my partner and i are constantly rowing. not sure if i'd be better off on my own

[DAW]

we row all the time since i got pregnant. it was unplanned, and we weren't living together at the time so the baby has meant we have probably moved things along quicker than we might have done. i do love him, but right now, the relationship feels so hard that i dread the evenings (when he's home). io know he does too. The baby is fantastic and i can't believe how lucky I am to have her. I'm supposed to be going back to work in he next few weeks, which is making me feel really unhappy. can anyone help?

Sigh. I am in a similar situation. I have 2 full time DS, and just never seem to talk to DH any more. Except to bicker. I'd love some advice, so I will be watching this carefully.

Hi both
snap i am in the same sitution.. at least we are not alone. i am married ds 15 months. going to relate but no effect so far. DAW going back to worked helped me as i didnt have anyone around in the day so was relying n my husband for talking etc.. i dread the evenings too. husband angry allof the time and actually said last night he was happy?? I really dont get him.. it is quite common i beleive in the first year. how old is your dd?

thats exactly how our relationship is. We constantly arguing over almost nothing. DD is 15 months old and i feel most days that its better if I leave. Also started since pregnancy and the fact that I dont think that he ever understood how hormones work. Mentions it when he is calm and says it was my hormones yet when we are actually arguing than its "Loads of other issues"

wannastartover
i have no idea how hormones work either! not sure if it is hormones to be honest but i have PND. my dh puts it all on me though, no support. :-( i wish we could have a break but dh has nowhere to go...

Newmummy I know what u mean I dont know as well and maybe it wasnt even that. But DD is 15 months and I still go through things but just feel that I dont get any support from anyone. To make it worse none of my family are nearby and I dont have anywhere to go. And because I do still love him and for DD sake I want our marriage to work but i am exhausted by all the arguing

Hi, I posted a similar thread - on bickering - and got some great, if obvious advice - bite your tongue, have more sex, tell him that you love him, make time to talk..all obvious really, but none that I had the energy or inclination to follow. it's more easy to take my frustrations over DS1s shit sleeping habits, than it is to be nice to DH TBH. And then you're down that slippery road of bickering and nagging. I'm going to try it tonight, please GOD let me be able to be nice all evening, the effort might kill me...

Huge hugs to you all. What have you tried to repair things? Often a solution can be as simple as both of you learning better techniques for handling conflict.