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How do I get out of this cycle?

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littlestmummystop · 23/02/2009 17:30

I've been with my dp for almost 3 years but want to end it.
This might sound simple but I keep having cold feet and don't know what to do.

I've been through a very difficult time recently ( made redundant, sudden death of parent, difficulties with money) and left the house we were sharing, went back to my place. Originally I said it was over but then we carried on seeing each other.

Dp has many good points ( generous, kind, hard working, good looking, great with my DS) but I have always felt that 'something' missing and sometimes find myself irrationally irritated by him. Right from the start my gut instinct said it was wrong. So I know it MUST end.

But after everything awful that's happened in last six months don't feel able to do it. I've tried a few times and he always says I am making the wrong decision and I feel so guilty I go back. I have few friends in my area and no family and bizarrely feel so lonely without him. Anyone been in this cycle? How did you get out?

OP posts:
solidgoldbullet4myvalentine · 23/02/2009 17:32

He says you're making the wrong decision? How does he know this? Is he so sure he's wonderful, or is he just reluctant to lose his domestic service and free sex?
If you are unhappy leave him and put some effort into making new friends: or in the end you will come to resent him whether or not he's a nice person if you simply don't want to be his partner.

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