(((((healthseeker))))
Your story is really shocking and sad. Yes i see how that would feel so much more damaging to have had there love and approval once and then lost it.
Where are you in terms of birth order? Are you the youngest?
I think somethimes it is about control, and often about jealousy. A teeneager is less controlable less pliable.
My mother definately up'ed the anti when I approached my teens and got worse as I got older.
She was jealous of me and also threatened by me. As I was her scapegoat she needed to hold me down.
I dont have contact with my mother now and to be honest it's as though I am still paddling but the foot has suddenly been lifted from my head. My mothers foot.
As for your sister she is proably basking in the closeness she never had. She is in denial about the reality of her relstionship with your mother and that is is at 'your' expense.
Your siblings have been taught how to treat you by your parents a sad fact I'm afraid.
I know that knowing all this doesn't make it any less painfull for you, but maybe it is time to start grieving NOW. After all you are coming to terms with the fact of who and what your family truly are. That needs to be grieved over for the sake of yourself and your own mental health. You cant fix them and they will never change healthseeker. Not if they are as truly toxic as they appear to be.
Cross the bridge of your father dying when it comes. You need to start taking care of YOUR needs now.
Just to let you know we are on this thread here
Please keep postingx