So. Hb and I haven't had any kind of sexual relationship in the last 8 months. This is entirely my fault. I had several miscarriages in 2007 and beginning of 2008 and to be honest it has taken its toll both mentally and physically. Add to the mixture a hb that no longer has a job, and me in full time study, also a child full of teenage hormones. Hb has been very understanding, but if it was left to me I probably wouldn't bother with sex ever again (which for someone in their early 30's is not good . I know I have to give myself a kick up the bum, and make an effort. I love my hb, so it shouldn't seem like such an effort. I don't do sexy lingerie, and the thought of stripteases or being dominant fills me with panic . So how do I get back into the saddle??