I said I would support him and will but I am so cross with him

[IamAlsoADreamer]

My dh has just quit his job.
I told him I would support him whatever he chose to do and that an exit is always an entrance to somewhere new.
He has been unhappy for a while l, long commute, stress when there, having to go in on days off to sort stuff out meaning cancelling stuff we have arranged as a family,phone calls from work constantly etc.
So why do I feel so cross with him?

Bad timing? Too much pressure on you at a difficult financial time. That the time to that 'new entrance' might be longer right now, than say in 12 months?
The fact you have to put up with all of those things too?

Has he found another job before quitting? very silly of him not to in the current climate

He is going to support you if he has no job to go to?

Nope not got another job to go to.
We have some money put by[not loads]
I have just phoned him and said he has got to get another job and that I will support him but that I will be on his back every day.
Am I being unreasonable.

Nope, just realistic

Not unreasonable at all, i know how awful it is to be in a job that you hate, just give him lots of encouragement, help him update his cv etc, hope he finds another job really soon

not unreasonable - my ex also quit his job end 2004 for stress, not spending time with family etc...however loooking back he was already depressed - the cycle of being depressed, being unhappy was not solved by quitting - he could not movitate himself to get moving... he got worse and worse and finally exploded inwards. and outwards - to his family and me. (hence is now an ex)

make sure he has reason to get up each day, has something he does - hobby? course/re-training? something that gets him out of house and into a different routine.

or make sure he starts looking for work as his new "job"

or he will just sit and mope... and get more unhappy and depressed and ....

I actually think I am scared- I know he was unhappy and to be fair I could see him dithering this morning and that is when I said that I would support him etc.
I think as someone else said it is just the current climate that bothers me.
I know we will manage, I will cut the cloth accordingly but I am a bit scared to be honest.

He's left a job without another to go to??
Do you work?

yep

I'd be kicking his arse.Have you kids?

nope sahm

Konb

Is he usually so hopeless?

He is a very good husband and father but with regards to work?
He is very good at what he does and people who meet him always fallin love with him ifyswim.
People give him business cards all the time and tell him to call him.
But thats the problem he goes ,does it for a while and then ?
I dunno I don't want to sound like I am backtracking I will support him and I know he has been unhappy [even the kids noticed at the weekend]

When you said you would support him, did you know that meant he might quit his job without another to go to?

I have been there with a husband who is unhappy in his job, and it's horrible. It's in everyone's interests to change the situation. But walking out of a job just like that is pretty drastic and, dare I say it, selfish. I think I'd be a bit angry too.

As for getting on his back every day to find work, it's interesting that you feel you might need to. Do you think he might not want to work at all? Could he be a bit depressed?

My DH has a new job now, by the way, and he is much happier.

Good luck

No I don't think he is depressed.
I know that he will look for another job I think me telling him I will be on his back was kind of a way of letting him know that whilst I will support his descision I am a little p***d off.