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divorce advice please

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profsturg · 18/02/2009 19:49

i need advice. I know i need to leave my H but its not as simple as leaving. I need him to leave. I dont want to disrupt dd anymore than what i am going to. I feel so bad for what im going to do to her.

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profsturg · 18/02/2009 20:03

anybody

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CarGirl · 18/02/2009 20:10

What have you tried so far, have you asked him to leave, how old is your dd?

solidgoldbullet4myvalentine · 18/02/2009 20:12

Depends on whose name the house is in etc, for one thing. Will he leave if you ask him? Is it likely to be amicable or is he likely to get nasty (if he is violent he can be removed from the house whether he owns it or not as it is regarded as DD's home and she has the right to live there without a violent man in the house).

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profsturg · 18/02/2009 20:12

she is 3. he has cheated so many times and this is the last straw. he wont leave if i ask him. i need my facts right

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CarGirl · 18/02/2009 20:15

you really need proper legal advice. You can start divorce proceedings whilst in the same house but assuming you have a mortgage on the house rather than renting he is entitled to stay there until sorted out as part of the divorce settlement AFAIK

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profsturg · 18/02/2009 20:17

we rent. its in his name only.

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solidgoldbullet4myvalentine · 18/02/2009 20:21

Unfortunately if it's in his name only he doesn't have to leave (and you can't lock him out either). Ring CAB and ask about family law solicitors: there is a good chance you will be able to get at least half an hour of advice FOC. You will be entitled to tax credits and possibly housing benefit as well as maintenance for DD from him: probably best to work out a budget and find yourself somewhere else to live, if you are renting.

CarGirl · 18/02/2009 20:22

really truly I would just go. Yes your dd will have to cope with a new home but it's not the end of the world.

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profsturg · 19/02/2009 08:53

yeah think thats what i need to do. My only problem i i breed rabbits and have a shed. not sure how im gonna get tht moved

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CarGirl · 19/02/2009 16:46

Have you got any family or friends who will help you out?

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profsturg · 21/02/2009 20:54

well i found out he was cheating again so told him to leave and he did. So im now on my own with dd. still getting used to it

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cathcat · 22/02/2009 01:53

Are you okay? Really sounds like you will be better off without him but still difficult I'm sure. It is early days though so take it easy and don't put too much pressure on yourself.

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