Fed up

[annemarie30]

We are on the brink of having DCs taken into care. Despite my parents saying 'we want to help as much as we can' they are more often not able to help us than able. They have health problems wihch I realise makes it difficult but part of me is so resentful that they aren't doing more. I needed them to have my 2 younger DCs on wednesday and it took a lot of work to persuade them to help. They had previously said they would take thme but then DS2 was ill. Normally I would cancel whatever I had planned if one of my DCs are ill but this was a very important ss meeting that I had to attend.
Today I have to go to CAB. This appointment has already been cancelled once and I really need to go. But yet again parents can't help. I didn't ask today..I asked 3 days ago.
I know I'm being unreasonable but I'm so fed up right now.Just feeling very alone.
Sorry for the rant.

Good point, they might just sit in the living room and keep your youngest ones entertained so you have peace to tidy up, and tell them to make their own cups of tea!

You'll get there x

annemarie where are you?

Just got back from CAb. Took DCs with me and luckily DD slept most of the time. Just need to write to all our creditors to arrange payments.
Only thing stopping DH helping is he doesn't want to tbh. Hadn't thought of asking parents to just come play with little ones. I'm not sure what reaction I'd get but worth a try. I just need them to do something to make it easier for me to get on with things.

How are you feeling today? Glad you managed to get the CAB meeting out of the way.

Taking the children into care would be the last choice after exploring the wider family and friends route and even then it would only be until you are better.
Perhaps they have made it clear that they can do this if DCs needs are not being met, and that's only right because your DCs are important!
Make sure you do everything SS require to meet the DCs needs and talk to them about what support you need to satisfy them. They will make referrals to help you with meeting the DCs needs as their first option.

Not so upset with family today. I know it's not really their fault. I'm just scared right now and struggling to get everything organised in the home. of course i don't want the DCs to suffer because of my depression. I know that they deserve better than the situation they're in at the moment and I'm trying to make things better for them.
My parents have offered to have the younger DCs tomorrow (DS1 is at a rehearsal tomorrow) so I can clean. I know they want to help me, I'm such a ungrateful daughter sometimes

What about your husband? I note you said "we" may have the kids taken into care. Why can't he look after them?