Mother In Law - favouring grandson over grandaughter

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Am I right in being angry with a MOL who clearly favours my son over my daughter?

She said the following to me last night:

1. We're going away on holiday next week
2. When is DD's birthday (yes its next week while they are away).
3. What should she buy for DD
4. I think I'll just give you the money

So she doesn't know my daughter's birthday, she's going away on holiday and can't be arsed buying anything for her either.

To put this in perspective, if it was my son's birthday she would book the day off work, would definately have a present ready and she certainly knows when he was born.

My DH is equally appalled by this but can't work out how to raise it without causing a row!

Aaargh! Advice please!

Sorry MIL but perhaps Mother-Out-Law is appropriate

my mother did this too but with my nephew over my girls

and your example is tame in comparison to some of the things that happened with us

have you asked her about it at all? does she maybe think the wee one won't notice if she's very young?

I'd speak to her about it

I'm rubbish at remembering birthdays, my dad has to ask when my kids birthdays are and I wouldn't expect him to not go on holiday for their birthdays. I suppose they are older and tend not to see grandparents on their birthdays anyway as they see friends and the gps live some distance away.
You say "my" daughter. Is she not your husband's daughter? That may explain the favouritism if she's granny to one and stepgranny to the other. It sounds as though she's ott re your son and normal re your daughter to be honest.
If she does prefer your son there's not alot you can do about it. asking her to cancel a holiday for a child's birthday and insist she buys a present sounds ott.
I'd make sure that your son's birthday arrangements don't involve her either to even things up if it really bothers you and you think the kids will notice the difference. I had a favourite granny. Does that make me awful?

Thanks 2rebecca

Sorry, I did mean to say our daughter - no she's not a stepgranny.

In fact, she only has two grandchildren, ours, which makes me upset that she can't remember her birthday. We live a lile away from her and she sees the children all the time.

I'm not expecting her to cancel her holiday but to put it in perspective, my mother arranged her holiday around my daughters birthday and if she couldn't make it I know she would make an effort to make it special -not just offer cash.

I know that compared to other problems on here this may not seem significant but I feel so sad that she is treating our daugter differently.