Ooooh God I've got a HUGE inappropriate crush!

[FourJays]

Down to bloody facebook obviously!
A boy (and he is a boy - 12 years!!!! younger than me) made friends with me on fb a few months ago. He works at pool where I swim. He was always sweet and friendly but I never paid much attention due to age gap.

He said he's liked me for 6 years and I must admit I'm totally flattered. I love dh but he isn't romantic at all. And then there's some-one sending me very romantic and sexy messages.

Well I obviously got totally drawn in.
DH found messages in the New Year and we had a rough few days.

It's all very silly but I'm totally obsessed now.
I KNOW it's just a fantasy thing and not a real relationship and I've never cheated on dh in 20 years but I just need to know how to get over this. I'm totally addicted to him now. HELP.

He is a bit controlling.
I said I wanted one years ago and he did sort this out.
We've done the relate thing before and nothing really came of it. I contacted them myself last year without his knowledge to help with managing his moodiness and they were great.

I'm not painting a good picture of DH here am I?

Because he does have really good qualities too.

I can understand you. Your DH may not be giving you exactly what you need (ie romance) but at the same time he sounds like a fairly decent and good man (leave the fling for the moment). I suspect that he is just not giving you a good reason to leave him and take up with young fella me lad. You would clearly then be racked with guilt so that is not a real option.

I suppose you just have to forget the younger man for the time being and have a think about your current relationship. Is it really what you want? Another man is only going to colour your view of DH and he will appear dull compared to a younger more attentive version. Can the younger man really provide you with all you need ? And I mean practically as well as romantically.

Any DCs here?

When I first read this I thought you were saying he is 12 years old! Phew!

Of course I don't want to leave dh for younger man. I just have a crush on younger man that I need to get over.

Oh yes and two DSs - 5 and 7.

Flings were way before them - we have been together 19 years and they were in his younger days. Were together but not married.

OK trying to help but truthfully don't know how you can stop your feelings.

Bit of will power I suspect.....are you prolonging the agony by posting on here about it? Think about something else.

Maybe I am Pecan.

Keep telling myself that once the bloody sun comes out I can go out again and not go on fb/here!

I am sure you are right - as long as you don't swap facebook and mn for the pool!!Ahhh.

Have you thought about cycling or running for your exercise for a while. Just change your life a bit.

You will get over him! I had a bit of a crush a while ago and then saw that really he was a bit of a knob and moved on. Hey ho.

I am sure you are right - as long as you don't swap facebook and mn for the pool!!Ahhh.

Have you thought about cycling or running for your exercise for a while. Just change your life a bit.

You will get over him! I had a bit of a crush a while ago and then saw that really he was a bit of a knob and moved on. Hey ho.

I'm SURE he is a knob! haha.