stay with dh or leave to be with ex?,

[havingdilemma]

I haven't posted on here before but am hoping for some advice opinions. dh and i have had probalems all through our marriage (been together 8 yrs). We've had terribl;e rows, sometime violents and sex has been very rare esp the last few years. We have a 3 yo dd too. We've alos tried counselling but not been much use. I've been in touch with my xp all through our marriage but last year we finally met up. Things were getting so bad with dh that i went to stay with xp and then we ended up being together. I'm back with dh atm as I thought i was missing him and i love him in some ways and almost feel protected by him in a fatherly sort of way. Sex is not really something i want from him (was never great anyway) and i don't feel comfortable letting go like that with him. Also his personal hygiene isn't that great (sorry if tmi!)XP is kind and loving and sex is wonderful with him and feel so relaxed with him and not inhibited. He's also great with dd and understands me. Xp wants me back, dh wants me to stay with him - I dont't know what to do

I just read the one BoF linked to. I agree it seems very likely this is the same person.
In the other one the child was a DS but

This one too

Note comment from FrazzledGirl in this thread:

"littlemucky/vbadindeed/mymittens,

I am about to sound rude, which I hate and don't mean to and don't want to do, but I have to ask:

What do you hope to achieve by constantly namechanging, re-presenting a very distinctive situation, asking for advice, getting it, and then ignoring it and starting all over again?

You seem very troubled, and also to want a very specific answer which you're not getting from mumsnet. What is it? If you could figure it out, I think you'd be closer to sorting the situation yourself."

Couldn't have put it better myself.

You need to let both men go get some help for your own problems and concentrate on setting up a good life for you and your dc.then and only then can you even contemplate a relationship.

So here I was, just thinking to myself ' I wonder whether mymittens/vbadindeed/littlemucky has finally taken some of the very good advice she has been given, since she has not posted for a week or two, and Lo! here she is again! This time, not only is she being her usual careful self by not giving all the information to begin with, including implying that Dh has been violent when usually it turns out to be either a genuine ACCIDENT or the violence is on her part, but now she has also managed to give her DS a gender realignment!

GROW UP! Leave both these poor men to find someone who loves them for themselves and sort yourself out. I am seriously wondering whether you need more than counselling, judging by your clear need to always be the centre of attention. Its not like you haven't been given good advice on here before, but you choose not to take any of it. You act like a child who thinks that if they are out of sight for a while we will have forgotten all abut you when you next show your head above the parapet.

If you are not MM/VBI/LM in disguise, I apologise for theharsh tone, however, I really do think this is too much of a coincidence for it not to be!