just need to sound off!

[stressesmumandwife]

ggrrr, dh has really annoyed me againm why is it when ever there is something wrong with me, he has to be worse off! i have been quiet for a couple of days, mainly due to money worries, which is a story in its self! he just has to go one step further and wake up today with the hump (which is more often than not) when asked what was wrong, he replied " why can you be quiet, and not me" ffs, if he was just quiet i wouldnt of asked, but when he was slamming things down and had a face like thunder i did. has anyone heard of plom syndrome?? it stands for 'poor little ole me'. sounds like its that. sorry just wanted, sorry needed to rant and rave.

Sounds like he is doing the old "I'm gonna act really obviously pissed off and when you ask me what's wrong I'm gonna act like a kid".

Can both of you sit down, have a good chat? Tell him why you've been quiet and that in future you both need to talk about your worries instead of being moody and letting each other guess. Being annoyed with each other will get you nowhere. You go quiet, he thinks it's his fault - he goes quiet, you think it's your fault, it's a vicious cycle.

Chin up, don't let it all spoil your day.

holy, we often go through this and i, we try and talk, but it always ends up being my fault. im not allowed to have any worries or problems. i feel so low atm, and not sure how to get out of it. i really think that our marrage is over, but dont know how to get out of it (he lays the guilt trip on me)our marrage is a long and teadious one and there are so many problems that if i wrote them all down on here, id be at it all day!

Aw, I'm sorry to hear that. I didn't know you were at "end of the road" status. Does he know that you feel this badly about it all? That you are on the verge of ending it?

when will he ever see things outside of his own arse! ffs, just had a row on the phone about money and our relationship! he is doing it again twisting things and messing with my head! i cant go on like this. ive had enough! im sorry i dont mean to go oon, but have nowhere else to turn

Don't apologise for sounding off. You've got to let it out somewhere and here is as good a place as any

Sounds like you need a bit of time out TBH. If it can be sorted, do you want it to be sorted?

why don't you tell him you want out of the relationship? why have argumenys with soeon you no longer want to be with?

he makes things so hard for me, twists things and controlls my thoughts to thinking that its just my fault. last convo we had was that it was over, but he always goes on to sorting out arrangementss straight away and doesnt give me any space. i feel lost and lonely and dont want to carry on anymore