Am I in the wrong for being hurt by this.

[TiredAndLonely]

My DH and I have had relationship problems for quite sometime, we get on Okay and do occasionally 'make love'

But a number of times now, he has started to initiate things, only to to fall asleep after having started. He has fallen asleep inside me, with his fingers inside me and last night tried to proceed through my pyjamas.

And then he snores.

At the start I tried to see the funny side but now it happens, if not regularly, then often enough.

I feel completely demoralised.

I can not post under this name for long.

Is it just me?

You could take it this way...

He is absolutely knackered out of his brain but cares so much for you he feels like he's neglecting you and so initiates love-making.

Blood rushes to his willy, away from his head, and he falls asleep.

Question is - does he feel guilty for doing it or does he just shrug it off?

why don't you try setting the alarm 20 minutes early and have wake up sex?

he does sound very very tired...!?
does he work really hard, does he not get enough sleep? how is his health otherwise?

He drinks.

Won't really talk about it, apologised once.

He won't in the mornings because of the children,

He works, but not excessively hard.

I am not angry, or anything, just sad and esteem low,

I have tried initiating it earlier in the evening but he is usually watching the telly and goes 'mmmm..later....'

And then

He doesn't like my new figure and has told me I am 'skinny'

the drink explains alot...

does he drink every night?

At the moment.

I came down one night and he was watching porn. Which I don't have a problem with....suggested we watched it together but he wouldn't discuss it....he sort of admitted it was for well endowed women....I have virtually nothing

have you always been the shape/weight you are?

sorry, just read it was a 'new' shape
have you lost a lot of weight?

is he on any medication (as well as drinking too much?)

I am now the same weight as when we first met, but had put nearly 5 stone on after having DC's.

He always said he preferred me with the weight on, but I needed to lose it for health reasons and for my self esteem. I am still well within guidelines for my height.

He is not on medication.

When I had the weight, if I was having a bad day about my appearance he would be very quick to reassure me that He loved me the way I was, but now, he either just looks at me, or occasionally makes little comments.

On the other hand he gets very jealous and doesn't much like it if I talk in any depth to other men...not that I do very often.

I won't be able to post under this name again tonight, but thank-you for your replies.

He was feeding you? Quite common IME for men to do this when they're insecure about 'hanging on' to the women they're with, so they feed them up so other men won't be interested. I think you've got a few more problems than sex. Does you talk to each other much?