So our sex life is not what it once was and we have fallen into a pattern. He is always too tired in the evening. School mornings are out. So he usually attempts a fumble on a Sat or Sun morning while kids (5yo twins) are in front of tv. Invariably we get interrupted. Add erectile dysfunction into the equation and it's a recipe for disaster. Last time we had decent sex was 2 months ago in a hotel (had rare overnight babysitting) with aid of bottle of champers and a viagra. It was fab. But I can't wait for one or two nights a year like that. I would love more sex in our lives. Have suggested "date nights" where we deliberately put it on the agenda and go to bed early but he moans that he hates the lack of spontaneity. Everything else is fine -we get on great. Oh only other thing is he has a daily w*nk in the shower which I think might be best reduced a bit so he has a bit of love left over for me! What do you all think? How to make him want to make love to me? And delude him into thinking it was his own idea ?!