Baby then wedding, or vice versa?

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Hi,
Just looking for opinions to help with what I know has to be a personal decision...

My H2B and I got engaged last October and, though we've not booked anything yet, were thinking of getting married sometime around Christmas 2010.

I've recently found out I'm pregnant (8 weeks atm) which is fantastic! However, now we need to decide whether we stick to our original wedding plan, when the baby will be about 15months, or do we get married quickly before the baby arrives.

I've discussed the pros and cons of each with H2B and my mum but would appreciate any other opinions...

Hi,
Just looking for opinions to help with what I know has to be a personal decision...

My H2B and I got engaged last October and, though we've not booked anything yet, were thinking of getting married sometime around Christmas 2010.

I've recently found out I'm pregnant (8 weeks atm) which is fantastic! However, now we need to decide whether we stick to our original wedding plan, when the baby will be about 15months, or do we get married quickly before the baby arrives.

I've discussed the pros and cons of each with H2B and my mum but would appreciate any other opinions...

That depends whether you want a 'big' wedding or not. That will be easier to do when not pregnant but personally I think it's the marriage that is important not the wedding and so I would be inclined to get married somewhere lovely and have a very special day - just not necessarily involving an amazing dress, cast of thousands, doves and everybody you've ever met! Then you can start your family lives with your lo without having to spend a year saving up, fretting about your figure and tasting salmon tartlets. Just get it done - I don't really understand why people have two year engagements - putting off the inevitable I think

Just on a very practical legal level (sorry to be sooo unromantic) sign the contract regarding joint assets if you are going to get the relationship on an equal footing!!!
He can have rights over your child without this if his names on the birth certificate, but both of you can also walk away without leaving any financial assets in the relationship for your DC2B without the contract!

By TheThoughtPolice on Sun 08-Feb-09 17:50:55
congrats on your pregnancy.

Stick to the original wedding plan. There is absolutely no need to rush it through.

My DD was 11mo old when DH and I married. DD was a planned pregnancy and we always knew that for us, having a baby was more important than a wedding. We got 'engaged' when DD was 5mo old and married 6mo later.

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no experience but I'm not convinced organising/doing a wedding would be easier when not pregnant. as dh was always said - they're a lot easier to look after when they're on the inside...

fwiw one thing I think what you should do is decide and stick to it. if you leave it vague, and then have the baby, with all the inconceivable changes it will bring to your life you could very easily find youselves not getting round to sorting it all out. set a date, book a venue. make it real. all the rest is just details.