being single, babies, am I being ridiculous?

[jazzpants]

am I being really silly?, am 29 split from h 1 yr ago and have a ds who is just approaching 2yrs,many of my friends who I shared my first pregnancy with (while they were having their 1sts)are announcing that they are now having their second babies, or a couple have given birth this week,
2008 was a horrendous yr for me and although I have a great job and adore my ds and spend good quality time with him, I cant help feeling sad that their is a possibility that I may not have anymore children or even meet anyone else, then I reason with myself that I am only 29 and have plenty of time to meet someone, have more children ect, I am the only divorcee amongst my friends who all seem to be happy and just enjoying their lives. I know I have so much I should feel grateful for, but I feel quite sad - I have always wanted more children I suppose I just feel robbed - I sound ridiculous im sure - sorry if im rambling, think im just a bit lonely sorry - any positive comments would be appreciated , thanks for reading

I know what you mean. Have just split with XP and feel very sad that DD might be my only. BUT there are lots of MNers who have gone on to have great second marriages and more DCs (wickedwaterwitch springs to mind, but there are loads) and you are lovely and young so have lots of time to meet somebody new.

thanks dustbuster, I think I am just feeling a bit sorry for myself, when in the park building snowman today their were lots of couples with their kids and I felt very sad, my ds is so young I feel guilty that he will never know what it is like to have parents that live together and any full brothers or sisters, but I know my h was a bad man and even together I felt like a single parent,well a single person actually. I have always been very clucky towards children and looked forward so much to having them, I was with h for 9 yrs before he considered children and I am angry with myself for putting up with that when I wanted different things, It just feels unfair - and I hate the fact that I feel baby obsessed at the moment, like I did before I had ds - literally like I have gone full circle again, sorry for whinging

It IS sad - I felt exactly the same as you as I walked through the park in the snow today.

I think it's ok to feel a bit sorry for yourself sometimes. Like you, I try to focus on all the good things in my life - and there are lots. But I do feel like howling sometimes!

Sorry you feel low.

Firstly, remember that not all the apparently happy family scenes you witnessed are necessarily happy. You only have to read this forum to see how many relationships are hanging on by a thread. A snapshot of snowman-building in a park is far from the whole story.

Also, you are very very young, years of potential child-bearing and husband-meeting ahead of you.

And finally - there are other ways. I didn't want my DS to be an only child, but with no man around (and turning 40) I used donor sperm. I'm now 27 weeks pregnant. OK, so it's not exactly The Waltons, but I'm certain we will be a happy family in our own bizarre way! There's more to life than following convention.

You're not being silly, but I think you have plenty of reasons for optimism.

I have heard that, if you are feeling miserably broody and yet intellectually know you are in no position to have a baby, evening primrose oil can actually help as sometimes intense broodiness is at least partly hormonal.
And you've honestly got years yet. I had my (unplanned but much loved) DS at 39.

yeah its not much fun at times, think I need a holiday lol, how long have you been seperated if you do not mind me asking?

thankyou both for your above comments! rebecca thats excellent! good for you!I think thats fantastic! I think its just hard as my friends are all breeding and im tired of constantly smiling and saying fantastic, I did that before I became pregnant with my ds for yrs

I totally see your POV, I have felt the same 2 years ago, but now with a lovely man and planning a future together, and the prospect of having siblings for my DD is now on the horizon.

settle into your new life as a single mum and find comfort in your independance before you rely on others for support.

thankyou only, yes I am very fortunate as my life has turned in so many positive ways in the last 12months and I have a fab job and independance that I couldnt have imagined 2 yrs ago, I have so much to be grateful for, I think my baby hormones have been in baby o/d for as long as I can remember lol, thankyou to everyone for taking the time to post on here