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I feel like a teenager to be asking but.....

34 replies

hmmmmmmmmmmmm · 04/02/2009 19:40

I've been seeing a nice man for a while, taking it slowly because of past disasters for both of us, but things going very well.

We haven't slept together. I've told him I just don't feel ready and he says that's OK FTB.

We're going to a party in a couple of weeks time (yes a real life grown up party!!) and it would actually work out quite a bit cheaper to share a hotel room, than a cab home.

He has said he'd love to do the hotel thing because he just wants the opportunity to be alone with me in private (family circs mean we don't get that often)and that he'll just hold me if that's all I want. And I have to admit it sounds lovely, but...?

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harleyd · 05/02/2009 20:27

i dont get why you would want to spend the nite being held...its all too warm and uncomfortable and bloody annoying!

BCNS · 05/02/2009 20:30

I don't see a problem with it.. I have .. and it all worked out fine.

LeQueen · 05/02/2009 20:37

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QueenFee · 05/02/2009 20:44

I agree. My Dh and I spent many an hour snuggled up in bed just getting to know each other as people instead of shagging. We did share a hotel room a couple of times before we had sex for the first time.

What about getting a family room that has a pull out double so 2 doubles to give you options?

I think it is a great way to move to a slightly higher level of intimacy without going the whole hog and no pressure. Then its up to you if the time feels right or not without any expectations IYSWIM

AnyFuckerForAShiteSoppyCard · 05/02/2009 20:52

nowt wrong with it at all

is just I am a slaaaaag

Salem1 · 05/02/2009 21:40

Interesting

AnyFuckerForAShiteSoppyCard · 05/02/2009 21:42

salem1, you are very interested this evening

Simplysally · 05/02/2009 21:55

As long as he knows that you aren't up for sex, I don't see a problem... but it might be a line. Do you feel generally happy with him and just feel it's a bit soon to be really intimate?

My ex/on-off bf slept in a double bed together our first weekend at his flat but we didn't have sex - it wasn't for lack of him trying either but he didn't put me under pressure. In fact he said "lets get up now" one morning just as I had decided to go for it!! So he had to wait a few more weeks. He was kicking himself when I told him months later.

frumpygrumpy · 05/02/2009 22:04

Sounds heavenly to me!!!

If it leads to sex, so be it. If its a night of snuggling so be it.

I mean, you are seeing this man and it is going well. Its a natural progression to spend closer time with each other. Don't be scared of it. Just go as far as you want to. Like all good teenagers

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