We are in deep financial trouble, talked of bancruptcy earlier in the year.
Husband has issues regading 'deception' and lies.
Yesterday I find Gym Memership payment on his credit card of almost £500. On a credit card that is almost at its limit, as well as owing almost £20 k on other cards (business related so not all personal spending).
He has been lying about where he's going, looking confused when I asked where a new towel had come from when I was washing. Told me he's lost weight through cutting back on food. He's been going 3 times a week for 3 weeks. He's come home smelling of deoderant and when we all noticed he siad its because the office smelt. Its really because he's been down the gym! I asked if he was afraid to tell me because I would moan about the money. He said not, there was never the time to tell me as I'm always busy with the kids. He also claims he was going to surprise me on Friday and show me where he's been going and the workout he's been doing.
I am so cross at his blatant lying. He says he's done nothing wrong!!!
Last night I told him to leave, told him I can't do any of this anymore. The lying, the spending, the deception.
I said there must be another woman involved as he's also started changing his image. He says not on the kids life but I don't believe it.
There is a back history which I won't go into but did I overeact??